help me!!

[rackel970]

ok so i am 7 weeks pregnant. me and my husband had split up for a little bit and during our seperation i slept with another man. unfortunatley we did not use a condom however he pulled out before ejaculating. we had sex 3 times three times over one weekend and then me and my husband decided to work things out and have i havnt seen the other man since. now before me and my husband were seperated we were trying for a child so im worried now cuz the big question now is could it possibly be the other mans baby?>??. if we had sex about 5 weeks ago and i am currently 7 weeks pregnant how likley could it be that it belongs to the other man?

[Clysta]

Actually they're not. There are many ladies on here (there was also a poll once) of women who got pregnant from the "pull out method". It's not any form of birth control at all, and fails more frequently than people think. The only way you're going to find out is by paternity testing, because it could really go either way. The best way to avoid pregnancy by pre-ejaculation is by using condoms from start to finish, BEFORE any penetration occurs.

[rackel970]

i am 7 weeks according to the doctor. but i the other man did not edaculate at any point. iv been reading up and the chances of becoming pregnant off of pre-edjaculate are extremeley slim. i realy dont know what to think i realy hope im just being paranoid but the fact of the matter is that i was intamate with another man around the time i became pregnant. and im realy hoping i can figure things out before my babny gets here because this is my first child and i dont want all the drama once my baby is here

[Kimberleigh2208]

Oh no way should you keep that a secret!  What happens if it was to be the other man's child and your husband finds out some other way (like at the hospital if your child needed a blood transfusion or whatever).  Unfortunately though, it does sound like it's entirely possible it's the other man's child due to the timing.  I DO agree with the fact that you need to look at when you ovulated (if you were tracking it) versus when you had the first day of your last period.  Please do the right thing and have a paternity test done if you can't determine who the father is.  It is the best thing to know for the baby's future and to prevent future damage being done to your marriage.  You made the bed, you have to lie in it now and I really hate that saying.

[bnphillips28]

Are you 7 weeks according to the doctor or 7 weeks according to when you ovulated last? Its pretty important because the doctors usually count from your last period since ovulation date can fluctuate. Since you and your husband were trying to get pregnant before the seperation, were you using OPKs, temping, etc to get a general idea of when you ovulate during the month? If so, count back and see if the week you should have ovulated matches up with the week you hooked up with the other guy. I know this may sound terrible, but i'm gonna say it anyway... since you and your husband have decided to work things out, the other guy is completely out of the picture, and you are pregnant with the child that both you and your husband wanted then why even entertain the idea of it being the other guy's? I mean, it could cause terrible problems in your marriage and that isn't going to be good for you, your husband, or the baby. If you were already trying for a baby and now you are back together I suggest putting the possibility of it being someone else's child out of your head and take that piece of info to the grave.Of course that is just my personal opinion!

[tinkerbell1124]

Well if you are counting the 7 weeks from the last day of your period, then it could be VERY likely it's the other mans.