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i HAD AN ABORTION AND A MONTH LATER- A MISCARRIAGHE. I THINK.,
I had an abortion when the fetus was 12 wks. in early to mid may of this year. I got a period on June 26th. On july 4th- I got pregnant AGAIN.
On august 11th I began to bleed.
On august 14th I was heavily bleding and passing half dollar size to my fist size clots. This lasted for about 2 weeks.
I thought i had a miscarriage- but i have not had a period, my breasts are larger and heavier- although between may and now I have put on almost 20 pounds.
Am I possibly still pregnant?
I have been binge drinking, and I am really scared that I could sdtill be pregnant. I do not have insurance and cannot afford to pay myself.
On august 11th I began to bleed.
On august 14th I was heavily bleding and passing half dollar size to my fist size clots. This lasted for about 2 weeks.
I thought i had a miscarriage- but i have not had a period, my breasts are larger and heavier- although between may and now I have put on almost 20 pounds.
Am I possibly still pregnant?
I have been binge drinking, and I am really scared that I could sdtill be pregnant. I do not have insurance and cannot afford to pay myself.
I think this little girl needs help and doesn't know what to do. Yes, it's not good..the abortion and the next preg. come on now though...she's lost obviously...she needs counseling also...I pray for you jasm. i hope you get help and visit a free clinic. You don't need to be having sex..you need to grow up and straighten yourself out and leave men/boys alone for now. Love yourself. take care of yourself. Nobody is perfect, ppl have abortions..I have, but you know what....I wouldn't do it again. People grow and learn and change...it's time for you to stop playing with life and respect yourself honey...you can change, don't be afraid. Please stop being so careless and naive, you can't continue to ignore what's going on ...WAKE UP....you'll have to learn one way or the other...girls do die during abortions...education yourself and stop it please....I'm praying for you...i pray God helps you to love yourself and ur unborn children...
You know I'm ashamed of some of the responces on this thread. To actually gang up on this poor girl......you should all be ashamed. I'm not saying I agree with her actions but it's her choice. And if she didn't know she was still pregnant then she wasn't harming the second baby by choice..... But I would go to the Dr. and they will let you make payments most of the time and if you are pregn I'm sure if you can't afford insurance there are companies that will insure you for little to nothing or for free.....such as medicaid or something. Please get medical help and take care of yourself and your baby....Obviously if you are pregnant maybe it's the man upstairs way of saying it's time to take responsibility and quit your partying....Good luck
Hi
As far as all the comments go, I think everyone needs to take a step back. Everyone makes mistakes and bad decisions. We are here to give advise to help not to be critical. Who are all of you to be saying the things that your saying. You don't have to agree with what she has done and the choices that she has made, but she has come to the forum looking for some advise. I don't know about everyone else but I intend on helping as much as I can. Not only for her but for that baby. NOW.....jasminj....... Everyone makes mistakes. When I was 18 I got pregnant. I had no husband, no boyfriend, no significant other. I was a heavy drinker and I was into drugs a little. When I found out that I was pregnant I realized that my life wasn't just mine anymore. I had a little life growing inside of me, that was completely and totally dependent on me. So I cleaned up my life. I stopped with the drinking, drugs, and all the other garbage in my life. I didn't know if I was going to keep the baby or not but I realized that the baby needed a chance at life with or without me. You have the power to make the right decision not only for you but for your unborn child. That life is counting on you. There are many ways to get some help. But before you can get help you need to realize that you need it. I hope this has helped you, and I wish the best for you in the future.
By the way..... I kept my baby. Her name is Baylee and she is 5 years old now. She is the light and joy of my life. I wouldn't trade her for anything.
As far as all the comments go, I think everyone needs to take a step back. Everyone makes mistakes and bad decisions. We are here to give advise to help not to be critical. Who are all of you to be saying the things that your saying. You don't have to agree with what she has done and the choices that she has made, but she has come to the forum looking for some advise. I don't know about everyone else but I intend on helping as much as I can. Not only for her but for that baby. NOW.....jasminj....... Everyone makes mistakes. When I was 18 I got pregnant. I had no husband, no boyfriend, no significant other. I was a heavy drinker and I was into drugs a little. When I found out that I was pregnant I realized that my life wasn't just mine anymore. I had a little life growing inside of me, that was completely and totally dependent on me. So I cleaned up my life. I stopped with the drinking, drugs, and all the other garbage in my life. I didn't know if I was going to keep the baby or not but I realized that the baby needed a chance at life with or without me. You have the power to make the right decision not only for you but for your unborn child. That life is counting on you. There are many ways to get some help. But before you can get help you need to realize that you need it. I hope this has helped you, and I wish the best for you in the future.
By the way..... I kept my baby. Her name is Baylee and she is 5 years old now. She is the light and joy of my life. I wouldn't trade her for anything.
Honestly I think you should do what ever you think you should and possible go somewhere else for advise.. i dont even think you really want our advise.. you havent said anything.. so if you are setting there reading all this you need to go and delete this and ask your dr.. cause all you are doing is causeing pain to all the people on this site that want kids so badly.. i think this fourm should stop popping up cause all it is doing is cirlcling around and making people upset.. its really easy go to your watch list and hit delete please for all of us.
Alright, this is pretty upsetting... I have no clue how old you are but I am 16 years old and have still managed to get through this, I was kicked out and everything and I figured it out... medicade you can get on, I am 16 and got on it (if is in your area)... You need to think about that baby if still in there... Look at all the other women out there that can't have children what so ever, the ones that would do anything to have one... You really need to stop drinking and stand up and be a mother and start looking for a wonderful family that would be willing to adopt and possibley find someone that will adopt and let you see it every great so often... You need to honestly grow up... you could also fight for child support if you absoultly have to... But girly that child don't deserve to die when he/she is innocent and you need to be strong and let that child live, no matter how hard times get you have to satnd tall and be strong if not for yourself for that child.... think about it.... honestly why would you want to kill an innocent baby???
I could not imagine aborting my baby right now or at 12 weeks after seeing that baby play on the screen like it did.
kntzmom
I know you are suffering through a miscarriage and I am so sorry for your loss and the loss of your baby in 2001. I do not personally know anyone who has had an abortion (female) so I can not relate to how much this must hurt you still today. But my friend who is a guy paid for his girlfriends abortion at 16 years old and to this dayc he is now 29 and still is depressed. I don't know how young people could walk in off the streets and get this done without a parents signature... HIS sister signed for his girlfriends abortion and she was of no relation to that once young girl. It sounds very painful. I look around at all the kids and grandkids in my family and couldn't imagine life without ANY of them, even my serverely mentally handicaped cousin who was born this way due to drug and alcohol abuse. His life is just as precious as all of ours. I just wish the hands of time could turn back and that whoever sat down and thought of this way to end the life of an innocent child would have a change of heart and never go through with it.
I am not being harsh to any person on this page... not even to the original poster. I guess I should hit the backspace a thousand times until all these words are gone but my heart with not let me. I've seen my baby at 12 weeks and it is a HUMAN baby. I don't understand............. and I never will.
kntzmom
I know you are suffering through a miscarriage and I am so sorry for your loss and the loss of your baby in 2001. I do not personally know anyone who has had an abortion (female) so I can not relate to how much this must hurt you still today. But my friend who is a guy paid for his girlfriends abortion at 16 years old and to this dayc he is now 29 and still is depressed. I don't know how young people could walk in off the streets and get this done without a parents signature... HIS sister signed for his girlfriends abortion and she was of no relation to that once young girl. It sounds very painful. I look around at all the kids and grandkids in my family and couldn't imagine life without ANY of them, even my serverely mentally handicaped cousin who was born this way due to drug and alcohol abuse. His life is just as precious as all of ours. I just wish the hands of time could turn back and that whoever sat down and thought of this way to end the life of an innocent child would have a change of heart and never go through with it.
I am not being harsh to any person on this page... not even to the original poster. I guess I should hit the backspace a thousand times until all these words are gone but my heart with not let me. I've seen my baby at 12 weeks and it is a HUMAN baby. I don't understand............. and I never will.
I THINK EVERYONE IS BEING SO HARSH!!!!! i HAVE 3 LIVING CHILDREN. I HAD AN ABORTION IN 2001, AND CRIED ALL NIGHT THAT I DID SOMETHING LIKE THAT, WHEN I HAD THE PROCEDURE I REFUSED TO HAVE "TWILIGHT" OR BE PUT TO SLEEP I WANTED TO FEEL THE PAIN, AFTER ALL WHY SHOULD I BE COMFORTABLE. I HAVE THE ULTRASOUND PICTURE HANGING ON MY WALL IN A FRAME TO THIS DAY WITH MY OTHER KIDS. IN SILENT I CELEBRATE THE BABY'S B-DAY ON THE DUE DATE I HAD. EVERYONE HAS THEIE OWN OPINION ABOUT PRO-LIFE/PRO-CHOICE. EVERYONE GETS THIS PROCEDURE DONE FOR ALL DIFFERENT REASONS!!!! DO I THINK IT WAS STUPID SHE DIDNT TAKE PROPER PRECAUTION.......ABSOLUTELY. THAT IS PROBABLY WHY YOU ARE BINGE DRINKING, BECAUSE YOU ARE HURT FROM YOUR PAST....BUT DONT HARM YOUR (MAYBE) PRECIOUS BABY. DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO, TO GET HELP OR COUNSELING...... NOW!!!!!
Did you have your follow up counsel appt with the clinic? They should have counseled you and given you some samples of different forms of birth control. I don't know your circumstance but there are plenty of clinics that will help you with health care and counseling at no or lower costs. Please take care of yourself for your own sake and to prevent these things from happening again in the future. I'm sure that you may eventually plan to have children and it could cause that to be a much more painful experience (physically and emotionally) if you don't get things under control soon. As far as your question goes, yes you could very well be pregnant still. Call your local clinics and explain your situation, I'm positive someone can help.
Yeah you need to take care of yourself...there are many ways to prevent unwanted pregnancies even if you can't afford it. Planned Parenthood services are free or at low cost. Take responsibility
My suggestion is to prevent future unwanted pregnancy, you should use birth control and/or condoms. I'm not favorable of abortions, but that is your personal reason as to why you did it...but also you should let your body heal from the abortion, that is probably why you had a miscarriage. I don't know if you believe in God, but also maybe because God knew you weren't ready for a baby and to prevent another abortion it happened the natural way of your body rejecting the pregnancy.If you were passing clots that big for 2 weeks then most likely you miscarried and just have to wait for your next period. Your body is still adjusting to the abortion and miscarriage, it's alot on the body...just take care of yourself and if you know you're not ready for pregnancy but obviously sexually active, you should find a way to prevent that from happening...Since you don't want to be pregnant hopefully you're not, but even without insurance there are places that can see you.
Have any of thought that maybe she had an abortion becuase it could have hurt or killed her if she continued. You shouldn't comment, if your just going to be rude about it, people have different opinions about this touchy subject. She was brave enough to tell us what she was going through, so give her a break. And just so you know I am against abortion as well but I'm not telling her how discusting she is, seriously GROW UP. If you don't like what she did, go on the next forum.
Thankyou and i do feel that the world is screwed up and i guess apart of the grief progress is to think why... why cant we have a baby and other people seem to fall irresponsibly. I guess im not in a place to say who can and cant have children however the most important thing is that jasminj gets help if not for her but for the child.
I guess what i wanted is that.... i think we need to let people express there concerns here on this website if not only for the help they might receive but maybe so that they realise how lucky they are and how precious a child can be.
I guess what i wanted is that.... i think we need to let people express there concerns here on this website if not only for the help they might receive but maybe so that they realise how lucky they are and how precious a child can be.
thats right femmie all i want to do is have a child and all i can think about is how easy soemwomen get pregnant and then terminate the pregnant as easy as 123 man im telling you i makes me mad. but to each its own. i hope she satrats using condoms
This world is a pretty screwed up place ... breaks my heart u had to read this page specially after all your already heart breaking experiences with pregnancy and then read what other people do to there children ... and there pregnancies ...
Hi,
Although its hard to say if you are pregnant or not. I myself have had 4 miscarriages and 2 stillbirths and currently 19 weeks pregnant and i would give anything to have a healthy child.
Once falling pregnant and realising it wasnt in the childs best interest but twice is a mistake on you. I know that you wrote on here to get help and not abuse and although i agree with nearlly all posted comments so far. What im worried about is the baby, when your a mother you have to put your childs interest first. So go to the doctors if not for you then for your unborn child. This is your chance to do the right thing for your child. Explain everything to the dr including your drinking.
I know that you have to live with the decision that you made to have an abortion everyday and whether your drinking is related to dealing with this now is not the time.. Seek professional help both with a doctor and maybe a councillor to talk about all issues.
Im sorry if this was harsh and i apologies to everyone who thinks that i might be not strong enough to express how appaling this is but my concern is that child what you decide to do after your child is born is your decision but until then seek professional help for the sake of the baby,
Although its hard to say if you are pregnant or not. I myself have had 4 miscarriages and 2 stillbirths and currently 19 weeks pregnant and i would give anything to have a healthy child.
Once falling pregnant and realising it wasnt in the childs best interest but twice is a mistake on you. I know that you wrote on here to get help and not abuse and although i agree with nearlly all posted comments so far. What im worried about is the baby, when your a mother you have to put your childs interest first. So go to the doctors if not for you then for your unborn child. This is your chance to do the right thing for your child. Explain everything to the dr including your drinking.
I know that you have to live with the decision that you made to have an abortion everyday and whether your drinking is related to dealing with this now is not the time.. Seek professional help both with a doctor and maybe a councillor to talk about all issues.
Im sorry if this was harsh and i apologies to everyone who thinks that i might be not strong enough to express how appaling this is but my concern is that child what you decide to do after your child is born is your decision but until then seek professional help for the sake of the baby,
maybe you should take a test and if your pregnant again think about giving the baby up for adoption. and after that you need to think about using condoms and birth control. i agree with the other women on the forum i am not going to be harsh on you but you need to slow down lit momma you can get so many disease if you have unprotected sex once with someone who is infected not saying you sleep around but open your eyes you dont have money for a pregnancy test and you dont have insurance then what re you doing how can you binge drink but dont have money for your health and yes planned parenthood is free and they give condoms away for free. so go and get you some free condoms and keep your legs closed.
Did you take a test and it came out positive the second time? Maybe you should go to a doctor and just pay out of pocket.
If you do not have insurance and cannot afford paying out of pocket, then don't get pregnant! What happens if you got into a car accident and were severely injured. Would you decline medical care because you have no health insurance? No, you wouldn't!
I urge you to do the right thing and have this baby and if you can't care for him/her, there is always adoption. Give your baby a chance and live as healthy as you are supposed to while pregnant. (That means no drinking!!!) I know health care is expensive but is that really a reason to have an abortion? That couldn't be any more selfish.
As far as the bleeding goes, it doesn't sound good. I definitely think you should go to the doctor, or even Planned Parenthood, to confirm whether you are pregnant or not. It is almost November and you haven't had a period yet, so you could still be pregnant.
If you do not have insurance and cannot afford paying out of pocket, then don't get pregnant! What happens if you got into a car accident and were severely injured. Would you decline medical care because you have no health insurance? No, you wouldn't!
I urge you to do the right thing and have this baby and if you can't care for him/her, there is always adoption. Give your baby a chance and live as healthy as you are supposed to while pregnant. (That means no drinking!!!) I know health care is expensive but is that really a reason to have an abortion? That couldn't be any more selfish.
As far as the bleeding goes, it doesn't sound good. I definitely think you should go to the doctor, or even Planned Parenthood, to confirm whether you are pregnant or not. It is almost November and you haven't had a period yet, so you could still be pregnant.
im not saying that having an abortion is great but if u think u needed one, then so be it. but getting pregnant again within 2 months and binge drinking? i think u need to do a test. and as u said u cant pay for it urself? USE CONDOMS. Geus OMG get a clue, i really dont mean to be harsh but get some common sense. I'm as here with my husband probably having a misscarriage and this baby was very much wanted and all u do is obviously go out get drunk get laid and not think of the consaquences. Do a test find out and do what u have to.
I have to say i agree with Femmie and Stellkas.. Its horrible that you had a abortion and then ovesly you didnt take care of yourself enough to not get pregnant again. Chances are you are having a misscarriage.. your system, just got scraped to shreds and that hurts your chances of ever carryin a kid in the event you want one. You shouldnt binge drink for the sake of yourself, not just the fact that you could be pregnant. THat is very .. extremely harmful to yourself and right now. you should be takig care of yoruself, sence a abortion is very harsh on one's system. I hope that your young and stupid, not older and know the cosequences of your actions. Then again girl's at age 12 , no more now , then when i was that age. You need to stop and really look at your life, if not your going to **** up a child's life in the future , by giving them some type of deformaty ( cant spell correctly, sry). to sum it up, go to the doctor and face the shame of what is happening.
It is really awful to me that I sit here miscarrying and you are being so careless as a pregnant woman. That is just disgusting to me.
THAT IS SO DISGUSTING!!! honestly the very thought u are alive and killing children disgusts me ... u belong in goal!!!! how dare u give up a life and then so STUPIDLY!!! get pregnant again not even 2 months later!!!!! and as for having an abortion at 12 weeks!!!!!! THAT IS HORRIBLE!!!! babies get nerves and feelings at 6 weeks!!! they have freakin heart beats and everything !!! I AM ASHAMED TO THINK THAT WE SHARE THE SAME AIR!!!!
try birthcontrol if you dont want to be prego in the future.....or condoms, planned parenthood gives them away for FREE
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