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Why are there so many young barely teens on here intentionally ttc?
Hi to all -
It really concerns me the amount of young barely teens on here intentionally trying to get pregnant? An accident (although i hate this expression) or unexpected gift of a child is one thing you embrace and live with but an intentional act to be a child raising a child is another thing? It shows alot about ones maturity and mentality.
Are these posts for real or just bored 13 year olds? sorry to offend anyone but seriously ???
It really concerns me the amount of young barely teens on here intentionally trying to get pregnant? An accident (although i hate this expression) or unexpected gift of a child is one thing you embrace and live with but an intentional act to be a child raising a child is another thing? It shows alot about ones maturity and mentality.
Are these posts for real or just bored 13 year olds? sorry to offend anyone but seriously ???
Thanks for sharing! The reality is that not all teachers/ schools follow the same curriculum. I remember when I was in school, they SHOWED you pictures of STD's as part of the lesson and also reviewed the reproduction organs. That was in middle school. Now my two oldest are in middle school and they are so busy pushing abstinence that they don't touch on the other issues (pregnancy, STD's etc.) like they should. Don't get me wrong, abstinance is the best policy, but what about those that don't want that as an option? I wish we could get the good ol' fashioned sex education back in our school. And another thing is, self worth starts at home. We as parents have to instill good behavior. Sex education in the home is VERY important I believe. That's why (knock on wood) my kids won't go there. Or atleast IF they do, they will do it with all the knowledge I can give them. But I be damn, I think I will flip my wig.....lol. All kiding aside. I do know they will do it when "they" decided it's time. I just hope I taught them well.....
I only wish more people would do the same...
I only wish more people would do the same...
Well, I am a biology teacher and these kids are taught about sex in PSE (Personal, Social Education) I think it depends on who they get as a teacher and what the teacher chooses to tell them.
Today I had to teach my applied science group about pregnancy/amnio's and diagnositic testing on babies. It is my experience with Year 11s that they 'think' they know alot but actually do not. Year 11 is 15/16 years old. I gave them a female reproductive system and asked them to label it and half of the boys didn't know one end from the other. I said to them 'you are going to be using these organs soon, you ought to know what they are called and how they work', they were like 'soon?!!' and I said 'Well in a perfect world you won't have used them at all yet but I'm not naive'.
I then proceeded to tell them (even though not on the spec) abut how long sperm last in the vagina, how long they last if they manage to get to the cervix and how long the egg lasts. I explained to them exactly why avoiding ovulation day might not go to plan and how that method didn't protect them from diseases AND I even explain tat it is much easier for them to get pregnant compared to me because their eggs are young so they are extremely fertile. I explained how the antibodies in a pregnancy test work and how some people might not even show up positive and how periods may still happen, although its rare.
They LOVED the lesson and said it was one of the most interesting lessons they have had (that disappointment me a bit, I put lots of efffort into all their lessons) but I was pleased because although they need to know some of it for their exam, I know that if they found it interesting then some of it went in.
In contrast my year 7s (11/12 years) were disgusted and I taught them in axactly the same detail. One of the boys was completely confused about the need for a condom. He said he didn't understand the point if it stopped you getting pregnant. It took me a while to work it out but he was MORTIFIED when I told him people do this for fun and not just once to have a baby!!! Ha Ha!
Mmm sorry this is long
My other point is also the difficult side to being a teacher, when you find out that in th school 6 children ranging from 12-16 years old have already had abortions and their parents do not have to be told as long as a responsible adult gets involved. I was disgusted fo two reasons 1. I had just had a MC the week before I found out 2. they are not responsible to make a decision like that and I would be pissed if I found out my child had been in that situation and I wasn't told.
These children are taught sex education to death but they don't think it will happen to them!!
Today I had to teach my applied science group about pregnancy/amnio's and diagnositic testing on babies. It is my experience with Year 11s that they 'think' they know alot but actually do not. Year 11 is 15/16 years old. I gave them a female reproductive system and asked them to label it and half of the boys didn't know one end from the other. I said to them 'you are going to be using these organs soon, you ought to know what they are called and how they work', they were like 'soon?!!' and I said 'Well in a perfect world you won't have used them at all yet but I'm not naive'.
I then proceeded to tell them (even though not on the spec) abut how long sperm last in the vagina, how long they last if they manage to get to the cervix and how long the egg lasts. I explained to them exactly why avoiding ovulation day might not go to plan and how that method didn't protect them from diseases AND I even explain tat it is much easier for them to get pregnant compared to me because their eggs are young so they are extremely fertile. I explained how the antibodies in a pregnancy test work and how some people might not even show up positive and how periods may still happen, although its rare.
They LOVED the lesson and said it was one of the most interesting lessons they have had (that disappointment me a bit, I put lots of efffort into all their lessons) but I was pleased because although they need to know some of it for their exam, I know that if they found it interesting then some of it went in.
In contrast my year 7s (11/12 years) were disgusted and I taught them in axactly the same detail. One of the boys was completely confused about the need for a condom. He said he didn't understand the point if it stopped you getting pregnant. It took me a while to work it out but he was MORTIFIED when I told him people do this for fun and not just once to have a baby!!! Ha Ha!
Mmm sorry this is long
My other point is also the difficult side to being a teacher, when you find out that in th school 6 children ranging from 12-16 years old have already had abortions and their parents do not have to be told as long as a responsible adult gets involved. I was disgusted fo two reasons 1. I had just had a MC the week before I found out 2. they are not responsible to make a decision like that and I would be pissed if I found out my child had been in that situation and I wasn't told.
These children are taught sex education to death but they don't think it will happen to them!!
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In all seriousness, when I was 19 and pregnant with my first my doctor wrote TEEN PREGNANCY on my folder and it made me SO MAD! But in retrospect, I am very young at 19! Can't imagine trying to intentionally become preggo at 13, 14, 16, etc.
Come on, kids! It's time to PLAY and then you can think about a family. I love my daughters, don't get me wrong, but there are days (like this morning for instance) where I just wanted to walk out the door and just go to a job or DO WHAT I WANTED. I can't travel, can't go to the movies, etc.
In all seriousness, when I was 19 and pregnant with my first my doctor wrote TEEN PREGNANCY on my folder and it made me SO MAD! But in retrospect, I am very young at 19! Can't imagine trying to intentionally become preggo at 13, 14, 16, etc.
Come on, kids! It's time to PLAY and then you can think about a family. I love my daughters, don't get me wrong, but there are days (like this morning for instance) where I just wanted to walk out the door and just go to a job or DO WHAT I WANTED. I can't travel, can't go to the movies, etc.
i agree w/all you ladies out there planning a child at such a young age sounds absurd to me as well!! My sil got married to my DH's brother when she was 16 and he was 19 and now they have 2 kids (shes turning 21 month)!! im still not convinced that she found and married some1 4yrs older than her so she would have some1 to work and support her. When i think about being 16 i remember i was a really stupid immature child and cannot imagine having responibilities like that at that age!! its been hard for me not to be able to have kids but i am glad that i have had to wait because when i finally do get prego im going to be able to give my child a good life.
All I have to say is I agree 100% with diva_lorri. Having an unplanned pregnancy b/c of a lack of knowledge or a condom rupture, etc is ONE THING. Being 16 years old and PLANNING IT? wtf? When I was that age the LAST THING i WAS READY FOR was a baby!! How can any teenager think they are ready for a child? Where will they get the money for diapers, food, healthcare, clothes, toys, etc. Oh yeah...THE GOVERNMENT!!! c'MON GIRLS. if you're one of these young ones ttc...stop! Enjoy your teenage and young adult years. You have a very long time to have a baby.... just wait!
Exactly, they are children and need handling with kid gloves. Im in no place to speak really - im 20 and 20 weeks pregnant - not what i had planned but the thought of even kissing a boy let alone BDing and TRYING for a baby as young as 13 makes me cringe.
I was brought up with morals and to have self respect. Ive made mistakes and went back to a loser guy who treated me like **** but at the end of the day i am an adult and made my own choices even though she was not planned this baby is already my world.
Babies having babies that are unplanned is one thing - sad but bearable - but TRYING for one? It makes me really sad. My lil sis is almost 13 and id string her up if she even thought about going near a boy - but she knows better. I only hope i bring my little girl up to have the same self respect.
I was brought up with morals and to have self respect. Ive made mistakes and went back to a loser guy who treated me like **** but at the end of the day i am an adult and made my own choices even though she was not planned this baby is already my world.
Babies having babies that are unplanned is one thing - sad but bearable - but TRYING for one? It makes me really sad. My lil sis is almost 13 and id string her up if she even thought about going near a boy - but she knows better. I only hope i bring my little girl up to have the same self respect.
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