know my place?

[agladding]

My friend has an almost 3 year old and she is a WONDERFUL mom! However....the dad is a total loser! She took him for child support and he never paid and he never went to jail for not paying. He spends all his money on stupid stuff like his crappy car and never really keeps his daughter. He and my friend have been in multiple physical and verbal altercations. Both parents have horrible anger issues! He got her kicked out of her apartment due to him firing a gun in city limits, she now lives with her alcoholic mom who has a son the age of 6, he is off the walls hyper and doesn't listen to a thing. She also has to share her bed and room with her current little girl. A few weeks ago she sent me a picture of a negative pregnancy test, and I questioned her about not being on birth control. She said she was kind of let down by the negative outcome of the test. She asked my opinion on it and I told her she is crazybfor wanting another kid right now, and especially with him again. I think she may have not liked that I told her straight up that bit wasn't a good idea. Lately she's been acting really weird and super sensitive, one of our other mutual friends let me know that she had taken another test, one was positive and one was negative. I'm meeting up with her tomorrow and I know the topic will be brought up. Should I just ignore it, or do as I've always done and tell her how I really feel? I mean I want to be happy for her, but I just don't see it being a positive outcome inr the end. Not to mention her baby's father was sleeping with her and another girl to see who got pregnant with a boy first, whoever was having the boy was going to be the one he stayed with, he told her this. Any suggestions on how you would handle the situation?

[agladding]

Thanks guys! It seems like such a sticky situation!

[lala_mommy]

You've already told her your pov- there's no need to remind her of it again.  If she brings it up just explain you figured it best to give your honest opinion.  I don't think you did it to be mean or be negative- and personally I prefer honesty above all but we're not all alike. And if you're interested in keeping her as a friend just remind her that because of what your friendship means you'll be supportive as you can.  Hope this helps, good luck!  ;)

[brit333]

All you can do is support her and be there as a friend. He is a horrible guy it sounds like but she has to come to that realization herself. Nothing you do our say well get thru her head until she sees it herself. Of course what happens if both girls have a boy?!? If she brings it up just tell her you care about her and have seen what she has gone thru since her daughter was born and while you may not agree with her choice you will be there as a friend because you care. As long as that's how you feel :-)

[July_mixed_baby_girl]

I say tell her the truth! She'll thank you in the end! If he's that bad of a father && she's not even in a stable home I would just be honest! What more can you do!

[joceeykittykitty]

You've told her right? You can tell her again but honestly she's not gonna listen! People have to go through it to learn from it. And also, you might not know the whole story, you never know. However it all does sound bad it's best to tell her and drop it. You can't nag her, it's her life, her choices, as much as you wish she wouldn't it's all on her.