what should i be feeling in the 2nd trimester?

[leighanne143]

Hi ladies,

so after 2 previous MC's, i wonder about everything.

i will be 16 weeks on monday.  i am starting to feel strnage little cramps, not painful, but odd every once in a while.  like this morning, i swore i felt something roll in my belly.

but other than those minors strange feelings, i feel normal.  is this right?  should i be rushing to the doctors for a heartbeat since i do not feel pregnant?  i mean my belly is geting bigger but i am just nervous.

i have also been a little more stressed at work, since i run a group home and then i had to put my ferret to sleep last night.  he was 7 years old and part of the family, so it was heart wrenching.  so with slight increased stress, am i putting the baby ar risk?

if you ladies could answer any of these or let me know how you have been feeling, it wouldbe greatly appreciated.

thanks,

leighanne

[leighanne143]

msgorgeous- thank you for your kind words.  my old room mate who is still my best friend actually paid to have the ferret cremated and i will get him back in about 4 weeks.  so hopefully that will help me.

[msgorgeous]

Im really sorry bout your ferret its hard losing your pet thats more like family i know how you feel its such a heart wrenching loss my mom had to put her dog to sleep a lil over a year ago and till this day we all miss her. Maybe try having a memorial or a way to say good bye. closer will help but not take away the loss. just remember that ferret was a good part of your life but he/she is in a better place now and it will always be remembered :) again sorry for your loss hope you feel better soon. about the pregnancy i have no idea what you will be feeling in the 2nd trimester i have yet to make it there lol. but your at 16 weeks yay thats great. before you know it you will be holding your baby in your arms :) i cannot wait to read about your labor story :) stay positive and dont over work your self. try getting a stress ball to squezze(sp?) in your hands that helps alot well to me it does anyway :)

may your ferret rest in peice.

[leighanne143]

kjbutcher- thank you for your response, it really helped.  i never thought of it in that way.  i really need to try to relax and enjoy this as much as possible, i think the next time i see my little one on screen again, it will help reduce the anxiety a lot.

[kjbutcher]

stress is a normal part of life and you are not putting your child in any harm with the stress you are under.  Also, the second trimester is when you feel your best.  The hormone surge is over and you arent huge yet.  Enjoy these few months because it will change very soon.  Your anxiety about this pregnancy will begin to change over the next few weeks.  It is kind of funny because when you physically feel good, you are mentally stressed and then when you physically feel like c r a p, you mentally feel better, about the fate of the baby at least.  Have you thought of keeping a journal?  Writing down these feeling is great now because you will know what is "normal" for you the next time around.

[pmperez]

I felt great my secong trimester and a few cramps and just a ball of energy, now that Im in my 3rd trimester I dont feel so great everyday maybe every 2 days....I would say that Im glad I got my baby girls room completely done in the second trimester because  I dont think it wouldve been done as well if I had waited 16 weeks is about when I started feeling some movement, but I would say at about 20 weeks you'll see a big change in movement...I love it!!

[leighanne143]

KM694- thank you for your response.  it is good to know i am not the only one feeling this way.

[KM604]

We went to the doctor on Thursday for my 16 week check up.  While we were listening to the heartbeat on the doppler we heard a bumping noise, the noise like someone tapping a microphone - well the OBGYN said that was the baby moving.  He said that I won't likely feel the baby move or kicking until around 20 weeks since it's my first.  He said women who have had previous pregnancies may feel it around 16 weeks.  I too m/c'd in December, so I worry all the time but hearing the heartbeat the other day was reassuring.  I have noticed that I am getting more cramping but in my pelvic area.  My uterus has also moved up because I can tell by the way my stomach is growing.  I think that no matter what, pregnancy is scary because you have no idea what is going on.  I find out what I'm having in 2 weeks and I still can't believe I have alife inside of me!!  Don't worry though, I think your thoughts are normal.  If you are ever concerned about any pains or anything though def contact your doctor.

[ovaz129]

hahaha... I just messaged you about the same thing!!  That is funny :)  Well, I guess we will both get some use out of this question!

[leighanne143]

abbysmommy4.
thank you.

[abbysmommy4]

Your second trimester is when you should feel the best.  Anytime now, you may start to feel little movements, but most don't feel them till later.  I started to feel little butterfly feelings around 15 weeks or so, but this is my 5th.  They say after one you can feel it sooner because you already know the feeling.  Again it varies from person to person.  As for the twinges, that is normal.  Your body is growing and stretching for the growing baby.  You will feel it more often as you get bigger.  Sounds like everything is going well for you.  Try to relax and enjoy it.