A couple of questions...

[twinkly84]

1) Say you like someone but, he expressed that he's not interested in any relationship b/c he's divorced & sad that he'll never find someone again. Yet, you really like him. Should you ask him out & risk ruining your friendship or wait for him & he's in another country too & you're really, really in love w/ him but, he only thinks of you as an aquaintance.

2) Say you're on dating profile sites. You're not exactly receiving though, the responses you'd hoped you would considering the money & time you've spent is a lot. Say you have a couple of nerdy (in your standards) men apply to you but, you're just not interested. Do you still reply to them back as a friend or just drop them, not to hurt them or lead them on?

3) On these dating sites you've had a couple of other types of men reply. One even said, "so you wanna makeout or not?" as a first line. Was that inappropriate or was he trying to make an ice-breaker where his humor makes things light? Do you respond to him or just delete?

4) Finally, should you go out alone to places if you don't have any single friends left to go to the stores, gigs, trips, sporting events or voluteer places with? Or, does that make it look all the worse/pathetic?

Any advices are appreciated. Thank you!

[RockRose]

1.  Why attempt to date someone who isn't even living in the same country you are in?
2.  Nerds can be great,  and are often rich.  ;D
3.  Delete
4.  I only go shopping and volunteer places by myself.  It didn't really occur to me not to shop if I don't have a friend to go with,  or not to volunteer except in pairs.  It looks a little pathetic to me,  sometimes,  when I see volunteer things that people will ONLY attend if they have a friend.

[mami1323]

1) If he only likes you as an acquaintance you are wasting your time.  You can't force someone to like you more just because you love them.  They just don't feel the same.  Let it go.  Plus, him being far away just adds to the difficulty of a relationship.

2) If they aren't men you would be interested in dating why bother with them.  Politely tell them you are not interested or don't reply back.

3) I would be turned off by that first line.  He may have been trying to be humorous but to me that isn't something that would interest me.  I would much rather have a man approach me with a line saying..."I noticed your profile and think we have a lot in common, I would like to get to know you better".  That would be a much more mature and respectful way to approach a woman.  I wouldn't even bother responding.

4) I think we've covered the last one before.  You are not pathetic going places alone.  You are independent and need to be confident.  

Again, these are my opinions and mine alone.  You have every right to respond to these as you would like.  You have to be able to trust in yourself and know that you are making the right decisions for yourself.  Good luck.