Always end any relationship very quick.

[Rosiebutler00]

This is really distressing is and causing boats of anxiety, nearly every single friend I have has boyfriend and that's something I really really want to feel comfortable with someone and spend all your time with, I am heterosexual, but for the last nearly 2 years I find every person I try to get know and make a potential boyfriend I pick out so many things about them and get turned of them really quick it making me think I'll end up alone and never like anyone? Is it just I haven't met that person yet that I want to make my boyfriend, this is all giving me anxiety and making me think maybe I'm a lesbian that's why I can never get to like any of them ? This is really upsetting me

[Nighthawk61]

If you can list the things that you are finding fault with, it might help you to see a pattern yourself..

[Nighthawk61]

I agree that talking to a therapist right away, would be your best action that you can take.
let us know how it goes.?

[Londres70]

Sounds like you need to consult a therapist about this.  You come across overly anxious and that may be the problem and why you are picking these potential bfs apart.  Sounds like self-sabotage vs. you are a lesbian.  

[Rosiebutler00]

What do you mean self sabotage v I am a lesbian?

[Londres70]

Hon, take the lesbian situation out of the equation.  Why are you anxious or worried about that?  Don't focus on that.  

Sounds like anxiety causing you to panic and then you start to look for things wrong with the guy because the situation is too overwhelming to deal with, so you rather just find all the negatives and end the situation.  That's what I mean by self sabotage.  I am not sure if you are a commitment phobe and/or  someone dealing with anxiety.

I suggest you talk with a therapist about this before looking for more potential bfs.  You need to figure out what is going on with you first.

You sound young and I would recommend you not compare yourself with others in regards to what they have and what they are doing.  You have to do what you feel is best for you; what's comfortable for you.

[Nighthawk61]

you have expectations ?
are they too high ?
nobody can answer that question for you . without further info..
what are some of the things that turn you off ?
lack of sophistication ?
lack of education ?
lack of looks that attract you ?
are you looking at the right pool of men ?
how old are you ? have you been to college ? are you working ? do you live at home ?

knowing these things might help us to help you ...
Liz