Are all men like this??? Men, please respond too!!! And be truthful!

[wunabnorm]

Ok... so my husband and I have been married for little over a year. He is a great stepdaddy to my 2 boys, but... he seems to have a problem. Ok...just for example... today, he called me from work, and I guess he was on break, and his coworker which is also his best friend, were getting breakfast at a resteraunt. We talked for a couple minutes, and then we said goodbye, and he hung up, (so he thought) Well... while I could overhear his complete conversation with his coworker, talking about how hot one of the girls that worked there was, then my husband was like "yeah... I wanna smash the little one". And, then the coworker was like and I wanna knock the other one up. Considering he already has 3 kids by one woman, and has another one pregnant right now, this disgusted me! I mean... all his friends are really nice guys in all, and would give you the shirt off their back if you needed it, but... they all seem to cheat on their wives, and or girlfriends, and wonder what it's like to be in every girl they sees pants. They are all in there mid to late 20's, but I feel like this is a problem, and I want to know do ALL men think this way, and some just don't say it aloud, or if they truly need help, because they have beautiful, loving wives at home, but they fantasize about these other girls! I just don't get it. I mean... it is one to THINK about something, but to say it is another. When I confronted my husband about it, he just said "aww... baby... I'm so sorry! I was just talking ****, I wasn't doing anything, and blah.blah... but, I feel like they must talk like this all the time, and if that's how they talk, then that must be how they think right? Basically, they all grew up in the same neighborhood where everyone messed around with everyone, and mostly everyones parents still live in that same neighborhood, and so they continue to be friends. Well, It must be in the water or something because they never change! They still all act like kids. I mean they have good jobs, and families and all, but... they just can't seem to change their boyish ways! I feel like he will NEVER change! So please tell me... Am I overreacting?

[wunabnorm]

yeah, me too! But I was always the one to tell them what pervs they were! lol

[pertykitty]

maybe that is my problem, i grew up hanging out with the group of guys more than girls.  omg have they brainwashed me! lol.  

[have 2 kids]

Saying something to your friends and actually doing it are two different things.    Trust is the huge factor here.  Even if my husband said something like that I wouldn't go all crazy about it.  I trust him and know he wouldn't act on it.  Haven't you ever hung out with a group of guys.  MOST of them will talk like that, married or not.

[chellybeans]

if you really want mens opinions post it on the mens forum. there are 2 or 3 that come here every once in a while.

[wunabnorm]

Honestly, I am not really bringing it up anymore, I am just "keeping up with my post" if ya might say. It was a good topic that affects alot of people, and I never asked for suggestions on what should I do, I simply asked for people's opinions, you made yours...and NEVER once did I criticize you for it, I simply said I just did not agree. I guess there aren't many men on this forum, or is it just women, because my hopes were to get OTHER men's point of views on this topic. I had my husband's opinion, I was just curious to know what kind of things other married, single, or divorced men had to say.That's why I specifically asked for MEN to please respond. Thanks for all of your opinions though. It is interesting to hear other people's views on things.

[Cosmogal]

You know my husband would comment on an attractive girl, yes, but to go so far as being crude to "smashing her" would go beyond even his level. I just think its wrong for a married man to say that. To me its shows lack of respect for his wife. Just my opinion. I would be really hurt. Again that is my opinion.
Paula