Unplug game-console.
Throw game console away.
Problem solved.
I agree i could not put up with that,timed shared equal is what is needed here,tell him to get off his butt and do something with you,if he dont then you have some choices to make.
go by yourself for about 4-7 days somewhere relaxing and if it works he should relize whats it like with out you and maybe he will give better respect for you when you go back otherwise he might start helping out
but if it fails try to compromise with him
Is he by any chance engaging in porn online, as well? Or perhaps very depressed???
My husband was once exactly this same way........... and so much time online-- ended up ( multiple times, multiple fights, etc...) with him resorting to using online porn, as well. this caused alot of damage in our relationship, obviously, but it is getting better.
It all began ( in our relationship) when he was out of work due to an OJI and had just had surgery to repair shattered bones....It took a little while to realize that he was VERY depressed-- and used the gaming as an escape... the longer he was on the gaming-- the easier it was for him to engage in the porn... and IGNORE me, as I did EVERYTHING.... and we have kids- they were like 8 and 13 and 18 at the time... i was working FT and doing everything else.... too. The final straw was me handing him my wedding ring and telling him it was one (Me) or the other (Gaming & Porn)... end of discussion. My rules, if he wanted me-- game goes away for awhile at least, completely-- AND we go to marriage counseling.
It always seems that the 2 - gaming and falling back on the porn use online, tend to go hand-in hand.... The more time spent on line, gaming, the easier it is/was to fall back onto the porn for other satisfaction-- which meant he never had to leave his desk, never had to leave his game-- could have one-- be done with it and immediately resume the game....
We're on the path to recovery-- but still have fall backs sometimes... but working on it.
It's been almost 5 years, now.... and its alot better.... but still--- WE BOTH HAVE TO WORK ON THE ISSUES--- TOGETHER...... It's hard, it's a long, uphill battle... but it can make you both stronger for it...
just like anything else--- drugs, alcohol, cigarettes.... online (and offline) video gaming and porn use can easily become addictions- so there's always a chance of "falling off the wagon" so to speak. Just have to stay in communication with each other-- full, open and honestly....
Best wishes my dear.... If you ever want to talk-- just PM me...
Namaste....
(BTW-- what are your ages? and how long have you been together?)
Also-- does he WORK? Does he have a job? or are you supporting the both of you?
-- What profession are you both in?
Just curious....
If you truly feel that he is the one, I am the first one to say never let go. However, you can't just keep acting like his "mother" or caretaker because he will continue this behavior. You are helping him continue on this path of laziness, irresponsibility, and poor partnership. I know it's really difficult to stop doing what you feel needs to be done, but aside from self maintenance and home maintenance, I suggest you DO NOT do absolutely anything for him anymore until he reacts and notices that you are not going to continue to cater to him and work around him. He needs to contribute, not only to the household but also to the relationship because at this point a dog would be a better companion than he is being. Once he finally wakes up from cyberspace you can use this to communicate to him what you want to see him change, what you expect of him. This will be your moment of truth. If he loves you and wants to be with you, he will compromise and make a real attempt at a change. Otherwise, you should say good bye. You need to respect yourself, love yourself and take care of yourself in this life, because you are deserving of that. There are other people out in the world who have plenty of love to give. The hardest part is letting go, and time does heal all wounds. Best wishes and good luck!