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i need advice!!!
I know this is gonna a little tmi but I need some help. it seems like if after I got on birth control I can't get "wet" as easily and its a bit frustrating b/c before my husband and I were able to do it like 3 or four times a day. and that was when I was using the pill. And now just once a day or not at all. but it seems like I can't get wet that easy with the IUD. I don't want to use any lube or anything like that I want to get "wet" naturally and be able to please my husband like that. COULD ANYONE PLEASE HELP ME!!!
Here's an experiment that might help: no sex for a couple days. "Playing", sure, whatever you can come up with. It might revamp things.
On another note, horomonal birth control is known to reduce libido, and otherwise mess with you, because it IS additional horomones. Don't be embarrassed to mention it to your doctor.
On another note, horomonal birth control is known to reduce libido, and otherwise mess with you, because it IS additional horomones. Don't be embarrassed to mention it to your doctor.
Ive been thinking about that too maybe its that we r having too much sex that gets me not get as wet as I used to. I'm gonna rice that a try and talk him about it too. he'll be okay with it.
THANKS EVERYONE FOR THEIR SUGGESTIONS I APPRECIATE IT A LOT.
THANKS EVERYONE FOR THEIR SUGGESTIONS I APPRECIATE IT A LOT.
I'm tired just reading about 3-4 times a day, lol!
I wasn't suggesting that YOUR age was causing the lack of lubrication, just giving examples of different factors that would cause that.
You've got some great suggestions here.
I'm not sure, but it COULD be that as much sex as you're having to be influencing your ability to get as aroused as you used to. From what you said, only certain scenarios (the fighting role play) gets you revved up. Just maybe if you guys slowed it down a bit, you'd be able to get more aroused. After all, I think quality over quantity would be important.
Maybe give that a try...allow yourselves to long for each other a bit, who knows, it just may work!
I wasn't suggesting that YOUR age was causing the lack of lubrication, just giving examples of different factors that would cause that.
You've got some great suggestions here.
I'm not sure, but it COULD be that as much sex as you're having to be influencing your ability to get as aroused as you used to. From what you said, only certain scenarios (the fighting role play) gets you revved up. Just maybe if you guys slowed it down a bit, you'd be able to get more aroused. After all, I think quality over quantity would be important.
Maybe give that a try...allow yourselves to long for each other a bit, who knows, it just may work!
And I cook and clean as well. I like to look up different recipes on the internet as well. I am pretty busy but we find time for each other we think that we shouldn't be too consumed on other things and find time to spend with each other. and we also like to spend time with our friends and hang out.
I like to work out so I go to the gym. Its been a week since I've gotten laid off from work. my husband works now and yes we are still very into each other. I'm gonna start going to school again in January. and we don't plan to have kids for 4 or 5 years from now. and yes we are taking advantage fro
it now plus we get a good work out from it.Lol
it now plus we get a good work out from it.Lol
I was kinda thinking the same thing as SpecialMom.
Having sex 3 to 4 times/day is VERY surprising. When would you have time to do other things such as work, clean the house, cook, etc....... responsibilities?
When I was your age I was busy with school (university) and I definitely didn't have time for sex 3-4x/day and I DEFINITELY don't have that kind of time now for that either as my life is too filled with other responsibilities.
Having sex 3 to 4 times/day is VERY surprising. When would you have time to do other things such as work, clean the house, cook, etc....... responsibilities?
When I was your age I was busy with school (university) and I definitely didn't have time for sex 3-4x/day and I DEFINITELY don't have that kind of time now for that either as my life is too filled with other responsibilities.
Three and four times a day is surprising to me! It seems from your post that it's been like this for a while. That's good for you and him, you're still into each other so much.
Wait until you have kids. You'll be too tired for that much sex! Take advantage while you can.
Wait until you have kids. You'll be too tired for that much sex! Take advantage while you can.
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Dear, I've got a lot going on in my life. I'd not have the opportunity for sex 3 to 4 times a day. Do you work or go to school? Have any hobbies?
At your age, I hope you are focused on lots of things that will help you along in life. goodluck
At your age, I hope you are focused on lots of things that will help you along in life. goodluck
He's used my vibrator on me and it doesn't get me wet easily either. and we do have replay as well. what I've noticed that gets me really turned on is when we play fight then the fighting turns to something else ;)
Is having sex 3-4 times a day surprising?
Is having sex 3-4 times a day surprising?
Been there, it *****.
Maybe your body is trying to tell you that you need more foreplay.
There is a K-Y duo for men and women. The womens is warm and tingly, the men's does whatever it does to feel good for them (my husband says it feels good). Make it part of your foreplay, which will be beneficial for you both. Also, try an adult store. They sell lubricants that are flavored, as well as some that get warm and give a tingle. They are fun to use.
Three or four times a day!! Holy crap!
Maybe your body is trying to tell you that you need more foreplay.
There is a K-Y duo for men and women. The womens is warm and tingly, the men's does whatever it does to feel good for them (my husband says it feels good). Make it part of your foreplay, which will be beneficial for you both. Also, try an adult store. They sell lubricants that are flavored, as well as some that get warm and give a tingle. They are fun to use.
Three or four times a day!! Holy crap!
I don't really think its age I'm only 19. and he loves the sex but I feel frustrated b/c It doesn't happen as quickly as it used to. and I guess I'll try KY and see how it works.
Why do you not want you use lubricant? I understand you would prefer to be wet the natural way, but some birth control methods interfere with that. Just go buy a bottle of KY, and get back to business!
Your husband shouldn't be less "pleased", as long as you're enjoying sex mutually, I don't see that it matters where the lube comes from?
This also happens with age. As a woman ages, she produces less and less of her own natural lubricant, hence why they make great lubricating products out there. It shouldn't affect your sex life at all.
Good luck!
Your husband shouldn't be less "pleased", as long as you're enjoying sex mutually, I don't see that it matters where the lube comes from?
This also happens with age. As a woman ages, she produces less and less of her own natural lubricant, hence why they make great lubricating products out there. It shouldn't affect your sex life at all.
Good luck!
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