Sex is a boring

[Sraden]

My biggest problem is that sex with my partner is allot of effort. I've learn't my own certain 'technique' which will make him orgasm all the time but it's so much effort, he'll have me doing it for a while (probably 5 minutes at the end) but that's enough! its so tiring, i end up leaning on a pillow and trying desperately to methodically use my muscles in my legs in sequence so i don't cramp them up in one go lol its ridiculous, i'm just thinking 'come on hurry up!' while hes having the time of his life, if i try and stop before i reach that stage he'll move me so i do it again!
I don't usually find sex enjoyable, on occasion i do climax but when i do its tiny and its only ever been clitoral, when i feel like I'm getting somewhere through penetration he'll be done before i get there or he'll change position, and this is after an hour+! he holds on so i can feel something but he cant hold on that long so i know I'm doomed in that..
I've only had two sexual partners, the first was when i was younger (about 15) and i had a ridiculously high sex drive, im pounce whenever no one was there or even in some cases when people were there, we were eachothers first and he was very shy which i loved and played on. Now however im with an older man with 7 incredibly experienced partners under his belt, hes 26 i'm 19 we've been together 3 years but i have absolutely no sex drive with him because of the reason stated above, and that in the begging he intimidated me as he'd been with alot more people who are alot older and thus more experienced than me so all i think about before and during sex is satisfying him.
Now I'm over the experience problem i still have the 'stiff as a bored' during foreplay thing and i control my breathing to make it seem like i enjoy it, i find it horrible if he looks at me because i've got a bored face so i cover myself in my hair, i cant even fake an orgasm as i feel like an idiot. How could i go from an ultra vixen to a bored ol' sally?!

[Judy246]

p.s. No matter how many hot partners he's had in the past, you have him now and you can handle him without having to prove anyting, but mutual pleasure.....boost up your self confidence, because you CAN handle any man without wearing yourself out....Judy

[Judy246]

It sounds like your trying too hard to please him, not thinking of yourself and have acustomed him to being pleased at your expense. This won't work....for you. By comparing yourself to his "past",  you are competing with the ghost from yesterday.  

Time to put in in check....come right out and tell him what YOU need him to do for YOU...to satisfy YOU and while your at if you get tired of a certain position, don't even tell him, just switch, slow down or tell him straight out "It's your turn to satisfy ME"....reverse it in the middle of passion and he will find himself in the possition to prove his "action" to you...Good luck and happy switching...Judy

[jo929]

Maybe he is not the right man for you.  luck  jo