Is or has my boyfriend molested his daughters....

[amenti2484]

I've been with my boyfriend for only a week and his daughter whose 18 seems to always try to be in competition with me in some way shape or form. She walks around in a bra and underwear in front of her dad, gets undressed in front of him, dances inappropriately in front of him, hangs all over him, listens to inappropriate songs around him and is constantly doing rude things for his attention. It was annoying at first but now it's beginning to spark some questions. He allows her to get away with things the other kids can't, she gets her way after cussing, hitting and cussing at me...he treats her like his girlfriend and she acts like it. She acts exactly like an angry ex girlfriend and No I'm not at all exaderating. Can someone give me input or helpful ideas to what the heck is really going on...Oh Yeah one more thing...we were going to have sex and he had a full erection, the 18 year old was up and in the living room which is next to the kitchen, he gets up fully erected in his underwear and says he needs to move the trash can so the dogs do not tip it over. I hear him and her conversing back and forth, he comes back and I confront him and he immediately yells at me.

[ROSYouralright]

Walk away.. Just walk away!

[Londres70]

This man is your bf after a week?  Well, that's another issue.

Molestation?  I don't think so.  Poor parental guidance?  Yes, I would say so.  Lack of boundaries on your bf's part and his daughters?  Absolutely.  

"Can someone give me input or helpful ideas to what the heck is really going on.".......It's their way of life; that's "what's going on."

If you have experienced this ONLY after a week of being bf/gf I think you should cut your losses and move on.

[specialmom]

You are staying at his house after a weeks time with all the kids around?  And already have an issue with his daughter after just a week/  Wowie, that is fast.  

I would take this much tension --  and his yelling at you ---  after one week as a very big sign that you need to move on.

It doesn't sound like he is molesting her from what you say.  Some households have less formality with dress.  But you see her as another woman in the house and he sees her as his child.

But hon, it's been a week.  If I had to question something like this in a weeks time, it would be crazy to me to consider going into week two.  

Don't take things so fast with men.  Date and get to know them before staying a their place or getting that involved in their life.  good luck

[Chima7]

If you've only been with him a week and you've already noticed this much weirdness at his house, then what are you doing sticking around? It's only been a week, cut your losses and find a guy who doesn't completely weird you out. It's not like you could've formed much of an attachment to the guy after just a week.

I'm always of the opinion that, whether or not there is something inappropriate going on between them, the fact that whatever is going on makes you uncomfortable is reason enough to leave. You don't stay in a relationship where there are strange things going on that give you a bad feeling because people who do that always end up regretting that they didn't leave sooner. It's only going to get worse the longer you stay with him. Cut your losses and maybe next time find a guy who doesn't have any kids.