Well as someone active in a church I say, pray in it. God is the one you need to listen to, not mick or his father or anyone else. God will guide you to where he wants you.
Church is about strengthing our relationship with God and no matter what he will guide you. So just don't think about it, but act God what he wants you to do. It may be subtile but he will tell you.
Agree completely with the above posts.
I don't know why in the world you would even entertain returning to the church. While I understand you liked it there and had a connection with people, most of that connection was through Mick, and whether you agree with it or not, they're going to have his back and with his Dad being the pastor, it's probably going to be very uncomfortable.
Also, look at it from Mick's POV. His church is also HIS safe place and HIS sanctuary (which he had before you were ever in the picture), which I'm sure is a big part of his support system. YOU broke up with him, and now you want to start going to the same church again?
Imagine how YOU would feel if the tables were turned, and the church that YOU introduced your ex to, that YOUR father was pastor of, was no longer a "safe refuge" for you? That's kind of unfair, especially because there are countless other churches. It seems intrusive and "in your face", even if you have the best of intentions.
My advice to you, for everyone involved is to find a new church. You'll grow to love a new church and its people just as much as you loved that one.
And, holding a grudge I agree with Londres, is a waste of time and energy. Time to let this stuff go, don't bother yourself with reading things he posts, find a new church, and get on with life.
Best of luck to you.
These people are supposed to be "church going people?" They sound drama-like and immature. Reminds me of a high school clique more than a church.
BTW: "Mick" is responsible for "MICK'S" happiness.
Well......God gave you good sense from the sounds of it and I would use your good judgement and not futher discuss anything with these people and find another church. Trust me you will find something else; another church. You might want to consider doing something with your FB and Instagram accounts. I wouldn't worry about what "Mick" is posting.
It's nice to fellowship with others, but there is no need to put yourself through all this nonsense. You should feel WELCOMED in a church, not ostracize because of a breakup between you and this pastor's son or because of the decisions you make.
Grudges......well, grudges are wasted energy on people not worth the energy. Find something else or someone else to use your energy on.
Pray for them (as they need it) and wish them well.......then move on to another church.
Breakups are tough, particularly for the one who is dumped. It's a very painful and heartbreaking thing to go through. His dad was right when he said, how did you expect him to react. The people you met through your ex are naturally going to side with him because they were his fam and friends before you ever came into the picture. It's hard to be the friends of a couple who breaks up because if you remain friends with the person who broke up with your friend, it can get really messy! So, none of their reactions are unusual in this kind of situation.
If you want to go back then go. But don't be surprised and don't get upset if people are weird toward you. You can tell them that you understand it's awkward but you're there to continue to grow your faith and strengthen your relationship with God. If they're any kind of believers, they should accept that. Because it's not like all of them are without their own past misdeeds, too. Living in glass houses shouldn't throw stones and all that. Jesus taught forgiveness. I mean, isn't that at the very core of who He is? While we were all sinners, Christ died for us all so that we may have eternal life. He forgave all of us, that's the bottom line. And all of those people, if they refuse to forgive you, are not following the example taught by Jesus Himself, so, they need to live it if they're going to preach it. Which means you'll have to forgive them too, for how they treated them after the breakup. It's still a two way street in that regard.