should I put my ex (baby's father) on child support?

[nuna0601]

I feel like I don't want to but I'm thinking about me and my baby. My ex boyfriend who's 19 cheated on me with a 16 year and pretty much still choose her over me but this isn't the only reason me and him were suppose to be moving in together but because of this were no longer doing that.but my problem is I feel like I'm the only growing and maturing I go to school and work but I so tired I don't feel like I can do it much longer and but I can't stop being he's not helping me he won't  buy anything and when ask he doesn't have any money which I don't understand    he works two jobs and lives with he's dad and doesn't pay anything. I'm 7 months pregnant

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Yes, eveyr man should have a financial responsibility to a child they helped create.  However, here's the tough part.  He probably doesn't make much at 19 and not having gone to college or anything.  So, definitely force child support but the amount you'll receive will probably be very little to really help.  It will be important to readjust child support down the road should he ever make a good living.  

I wouldn't worry so much about visitation.  If he's not really interested in the baby now, he's most likely not going to want to hang out with the baby in his free time later.  Perhaps his mother will want to be involved but that is a good thing as you need support and a baby never has too many people to love it.  

Sorry it has come to this.  But you dodged a bullet.  he's an immature cheater and who needs that when you have HUGE things on the way that require adult like behavior (IE: baby).  I want you to remember this for the future----  if a guy is a jerk in any way while we are dating . . .  break it off right away.  AND, if they do not settle for anyone that doesn't treat you with the utmost respect. HIGH standards must be expected to get a good man.  good luck

[gueritacali]

Yes and wage disbursement is the best option....that way it's automatically withdrawn from his paycheck

[AubsMomma472014]

Just remember,  if he does get visitation due to him paying child support. .. That 16 year old girl will most likely be around, helping raise your child.  You have to sit down and weigh out your options.  Personally I wouldn't,  a couple hundred dollars a month isn't much help. For some it's better than none though.  It's up to you.  Do what's best for your child.  If he's not a good guy,  I wouldn't want my child seeing him. .. which will happen if you get money from him.

[feliciaschult2325]

I would it takes 2 its time for him to be responsible

[Mrsrobb]

If you do that he might get visitation rights. So I would decide on if you can have that kind of man around your child forever and you basically have to answer to him or the courts for certain things or if you can do it alone and screw him.

[FirstBabyYoung]

I definitely would he chooses to not hep you force him to help you and put his butt on child support

[super_nerdy_mommy]

Yes. You should absolutely try.

[TeshaR]

If a guy isn't supporting his child then yes I believe they should be put on child support.

[haleyblossom]

Yes definitely