Is my partner addicted to porn

[Iris737]

I've been with my partner for about 14 months and around end of August I'd found out he had been talking to a girl on facebook (shock horror) and also randomly strolling through Facebook and looking at every girl he came into contact with and also watching porn... ( which would be fine if I were given an equal amount of attention)

Meanwhile he had become very distant and angry and trying to get intimate with him was a challenge to the point I thought he had an affair... I confronted him and he'd make me feel that I was just crazy and pushing him away...eventually after evidence was produced he owned upto it all and I thought he was done lying. Things seemed alright for a while

I'd asked him a couple of weeks later if he'd ever paid for private live Web cam shows and he'd said no to my face. Turns out that he did on a regular basis while we also struggled for money literally from the first day we met.

I want to help him but the whole situation has turned me from this confident attractive feeling person to someone who feels depressed and anxious and down right unappealing. I don't know if he is still doing it but the lies are still there. He says it's to do with stress but he won't go to the doctors or anything  

[specialmom]

Hi.  I'm sorry to read this!  I don't know what is up with him and it is hard to analyze.  But I WILL say that I'd not appreciate this in a boyfriend.  So, here's the deal.  We date for a reason.  You've not been together that long at 14 months and during that time, you are supposed to be judging him for long term potential.  From what you've written, he should not meet your criteria for a long term partner.  Ignoring you, checking out women on facebook which are REAL woman he could contact and web cam stuff . . . which is porn on steroids and very personal.  Porn is something a lot of men do but he lies about it and then does the live thing which takes it to a higher level.  But mostly, he ignores you and is distant/angry at times.  All that in less than a year and a half together.  Picture 10 years from now!  
So, my best advice to you is to consider that he is not long term partner material and that you can find someone that is a better match for yourself that you will ultimately be more happy with.  Porn can be an addiction but I don't recommend you try to work it out or go the long haul with him either way (addiction or not) as you don't have enough time invested in this to take the risk of a lifetime of unhappiness and mistrust.  good luck