help !

[jreese809]

my boyfriend doesnt trust me , at all. because ive cheated on him twice. (smh) being stupid. idk how to prove to him that he can trust me dis time. (before our relationshp lets go) HELP!

[jreese809]

i know. i jus needed to hear this from other people.

[treazzure007]

takes time.  he may never get there.  be ready to face the whole load of consequences that can come w/ your actions b/c it may be that this relationship is over and for you not repeat these things again in a new one

[teko]

You cannot prove anything to him. He makes the decision whether he cares enuff to try to rebuild the relationship or he doesnt. It really is out of your hands at this point. However, with that said, he doesnt get use the situation to belittle you or make you pay  either. He simply gets to decide if your worth the wait to see if you are telling the truth and can be trusted again. Beware, if you stay, you may have to listen to him reem you for years to come and you may have to deal with a very mistrusting, insecure individual for a long time.

[jreese809]

im tryin to give him time . i jus dont feel like i have time wit the way everythin is goin . this happened last year , in the beginnin of our relationship. before i fell in love wit him. before i was actually ready to be comitted to him , idk wat i was thinking . yes i lied about it thru out our whole relationship nd i feel like an idiot. recently i came clean to him about EVERYTHIN!  but hes insisting that theres more nd theres really not. idk how to prove to him that theres not .

[teko]

You cheated not once but twice. I think there would have to be something abnormal about your bf to trust you again. I am surprised he didnt dump you after the first time. Consequences of your behavior means that you no longer have trust and possibly not the forgiveness either. You did it to yourself and have only you to blame. Now you have to face the consequences of your actions. And so does he.

[specialmom]

I agree that time will be what gives your boyfriend evidence to trust you again--------- that is time in which you remain faithful and honest.  I think as we screw up in life it is an excellent opportunity to grow wiser. Now ya know------------ stupid actions including cheating have far reaching consequences.  It can be a great deterrent for the next time you are feeling "stupid".  You are wiser now and know better.  good luck

[cheshchesh819]

If you want to be in this relationship why cheat not just once but twice?He will have a struggle on his hands to trust you again,the only advice there is really is gto give him time and even after that he may never trust you again,but if this is what you really want then you have to be prepared for some harse times,you are very lucky he is still with you i would of been gone after the first time,so he must love you,lets just hope he loves you enough to give you a third chance.

[perch101]

Since you have given him reason not to trust you, the only thing that will change that is time (a long period of time that you don't lie/cheat on him) - but even then it may never entirely go away.

It may help to put yourself in his shoes - imagine if he had cheated on you more than once - it would be hard to trust him right?

It's a self-protection mechanism - it will be a long time, or maybe never that he completely trusts you. Probably not what you want to hear but that's how it is!