Thank you Anna. I think the biggest thing I am struggling with is not getting any validation from my husband. How can he just sit and watch the rude and disrespectful behavior from his mother towards his wife - the silence from the husband stings even more. I think if I got a "This is a difficult time - but I love you and just try and bear with it" I would be ok and could cope better. It's hard very hard and she left with bitter feelings - She made it clear that I was beneath her.
Thanks so much. I really appreciate the kind words. It's hard but support from this group helps.
Thank you for your response. I have 2 young daughters so I don't understand the dynamics between a mother and son. But I do know that more than anything it comes down to love and how you are treated. I think you will make a wonderful MIL because you understand that if you have want good relations with your grand children and son then your DIL has to be respected and shown some love. At the end of the day all I want is peace in my heart and a husband that can show some validation and love. Life is short and these hardships make it very difficult to find peace and serenity.
Thank you for your support Nighthawk61. My MIL is only 66 but loves playing wounded warrior - I think she will be around a longggg time so it makes it hard to tolerate the situation. Thanks for your support and understanding. May we all be blessed with peace and love in our lives.
He chose you to be his wife he doesn't think you are beneath her or he wouldn't have married you,
Learn to compartmentalize. Separate you from the problem. Get your head out of that game. Your MIL is projecting, she feels inadequate to you. You have taken her boy away from her to another country away and she probably resents you for it. Could that be a possibility ? How did you and he get together and make the decision to live away from his mother ?
Does your family live near you ?