Straight woman attracted to breasts

[PedroPrado]

I am a man, 30 years old. Recently, a female friend (straight, married for 7 years) told me a secret that she considers to be very embarassing. She says that she gets very aroused by looking at naked female breasts. She told me that she is very sure that she is not a lesbian or even bisexual, and that she has never pictured herself with another woman, neither in a sexual or romantic way. Even so, when she looks at other girls breasts she gets very aroused, to the point that she secretly watches girl-on-girl porn just to see girls breasts. So, she says is not aroused by looking at covered breasts or cleavages (like we boys are), but only when they are naked and there is sex involved (like porn).

She says that she wants to tell this to his boyfriend but she is afraid that he will think that she is a lesbian in the closet or something. She asked me what do i think and how would i take the "news" if i were in her husbands place... and im not very sure what to think or how will i react if my girlfriend said something like that to me.

Again, she assures me that she is completely straight but she has this breast obsession from some time now. She noticed this obsession while watching porn. She says that everytime she watches porn she prefers to look at the female breasts because they represent a more pure and beautiful form of sex...

Its kind of weird, isnt it? I mean, its like a straight male being aroused by looking at penises... i dont know.

So, how common is this? Do you know any story similar to this? And also, do you think she should tell his husband about this?

Thanks for sharing. :)

[nursegirl6572]

Ditto ditto ditto all of the above!!

[Londres70]

Is the woman married with a bf?  First you mentioned she is married then you mentioned something about a bf.

I mean really?  I don't think it is necessary to share EVERY thought you have with someone else.  Why is she even telling you this?  

If she is grappling with this in regards to whether this is normal or not then she should discuss her feelings/thoughts with a therapist who deals with sexual issues.  Then the therapist can help her decide whether it's something she should or shouldn't discuss with her husband, bf or whomever.

How common this is.......I don't know.  Strange indeed.

Post in the Sexual Health Forum as well.

[Chima7]

You have some weird conversations  with your friends, that's for sure. She needs to talk to her husband about it. She shouldn't be talking about that stuff with a guy who happens to be her friend. I have guys who are friends but if I was married I wouldn't be telling them stuff like this. I would hope I would've married a guy who I wasn't afraid to talk to about anything and everything. Isn't that what married couples are supposed to do? What's the point of being married if you can't share your thoughts with your spouse?

[RockRose]

I think it's really weird that she tells you this,  and I also think it's weird that she has both a husband and a boyfriend.

And it's also weird that if she's straight,  she's not watching straight porn - that has LOTS of breasts in it.  

[Vance2335]

I see nothing wrong with a woman being aroused by another woman. The female body is a work of art. It does not mean she is gay or bi because she likes the look of a woman.

She has no reason not to tell her husband, other then he may think that he can get a 3some out of it.

[TTinKKerBBell]

what SpecialMom said!!

but to answer Your specific question.  It does seem weird to me that She would be "aroused" by female breasts - but I disagree with Your comparison that

"it's like a straight male being aroused by looking at penises" - She's talking about breasts, not vagina versus penis  It seems to me that Men AND Women are both obsessed about breasts' and breast size (hence breast augmentation).  For Her to be aroused though, seems odd.

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Well, first, I really don't think a married women needs to be sharing this kind of thing with a male friend.  Way too intimate of a conversation.  I also know manipulative women that will have this kind of conversation thinking they are turning a man on and kind of then getting off on that themselves.  I personally would stay away from this kind of convo with her and encourage her to have better communication with her husband.

Have no idea how common this is but can only give you advice on the interpersonal relationship between you and a married woman friend.  Encourage her to have her spouse be her sounding board for her sexual thoughts and try not to get dragged into it.  Because if she says "I was talking to Bob about my breast obsession and he said that you'd think it was cool . . ." or whatever, he may just be a little irritated she went to you first.  

And if she really that this is such a huge issue and she can't talk to her life partner about it, then encourage her to see a therapist.  good luck