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kicked me out...
So yesterday I explained how my boyfriend just annoys me and I tell him it's the hormones.. today was my day off since I work.night shift... and I was sleeping and basically later on an argument starts... he kicks me out.. so I moved back with my mom. Before I Packed He Goes Out To Ride His Bicycle With His 14 Year Old sSister. . Cause it relieves stress.. took him 2 hrs to ask where I am and to.receive calls. I ignore them of course.. then I'm on instagram and while I'm crying my eyes out he's out with his cousin and cousins friends drinking.. acting single basically.. ignoring my calls and texts.. why doesn't he care about me and the baby :( I feel like he isnt. Excited like I am....
I just feel like I don't matter anymore
I just feel like I don't matter anymore
You sound like a mom, he sounds like a sperm donor.
You also sound like relationship actually meant something to you. Obviously not to him.
You also sound like relationship actually meant something to you. Obviously not to him.
"I'm not a ***** 24/7 there's just one of those days that he annoys me for no reason... he starts yelling then puts his hands on me.. now please tell me what I did wrong to deserve being slapped or my hair pulled because I'm tired and don't wanna be woke. up? Yes he's hit me because I slept too much because I had extreme fatigue"...................Hon, stay at your mother's house permanently
You need to REALLY rethink this relationship with this guy. Sounds like you two bring out the WORST in each other.
In regards to hormones, hon this isn't the only time in your life you will have to deal with fluctuating hormones, so you are going to have to learn to master them. It's not easy being a perimenopausal or a menopausal woman either, however, that's ZERO excuse for bad behavior.
You need to REALLY rethink this relationship with this guy. Sounds like you two bring out the WORST in each other.
In regards to hormones, hon this isn't the only time in your life you will have to deal with fluctuating hormones, so you are going to have to learn to master them. It's not easy being a perimenopausal or a menopausal woman either, however, that's ZERO excuse for bad behavior.
Thumbs up @ specialmom That's pretty much exactly what I was trying to say but I got 'politly' attacked. As woman, and moreso as woman who c themselves as mature enough to get pregnant, we have to learn to control ourselves regardless of reason. If I wigged out on every person that 'annoyed' me just bc of my hormones, I wouldn't b married (bc my husband would've done left my *ss), my kids would hate me, and my mom wouldn't talk to me, ever. Teenagers flip over emotional inability of self control. Woman are not allowed. Too much is expected of us. Strength and control r requirements to a stable family, single parent or not. Once we become mothers, it's part of our job. Plain and simple.
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Please don't take this the wrong way but these are almost the kinds of arguments high school kids have. Which is fine if you are that age BUT you are expecting a child. And therefore, you have to move past immature moments like this.
The big picture is you are not getting along with this guy. Your mom's place is probably where you need to be to start to create the stable environment you need to raise a child in. I would start making plans for this baby because all of this 'other' stuff will be distracting from that important job. In fact, you'll have no energy for drama with the dad. Instead, cut the drama off now.
Hormones are no excuse for being irritable with family and loved ones. As I'm older than you, I can tell you that hormones shift throughout life and we need to not just say "it's hormones, sorry (although apologizing is always good when we've acted badly)" but rather work on ourselves to control ourselves better. This is so important. If your hormones are causing you to be difficult to live with . . . why would someone want to live with you? Instead, we have to learn to control our mood and find ways to release frustration or tension other than taking it out on people we love. That's just a fact of life and something everyone has to deal with.
If you want to be with the boyfriend, start working on the problems. Hope they get better. good luck
The big picture is you are not getting along with this guy. Your mom's place is probably where you need to be to start to create the stable environment you need to raise a child in. I would start making plans for this baby because all of this 'other' stuff will be distracting from that important job. In fact, you'll have no energy for drama with the dad. Instead, cut the drama off now.
Hormones are no excuse for being irritable with family and loved ones. As I'm older than you, I can tell you that hormones shift throughout life and we need to not just say "it's hormones, sorry (although apologizing is always good when we've acted badly)" but rather work on ourselves to control ourselves better. This is so important. If your hormones are causing you to be difficult to live with . . . why would someone want to live with you? Instead, we have to learn to control our mood and find ways to release frustration or tension other than taking it out on people we love. That's just a fact of life and something everyone has to deal with.
If you want to be with the boyfriend, start working on the problems. Hope they get better. good luck
Well you cannot get upset at us when we make statements and we do not know the full story because you do not include the full story honey. Yes hitting you is wrong yes kicking you out while you are pregnant is wrong. But 26 is still counted as young especially for men who mature at a different rate than us.
I see so MANY stories like this on this forum.
WE (women) need to make Better, more Mature Decisions about who WE are going to make Babies with. It takes TWO to make these Babies and often WE are not making wise decisions. The writing is most usually on the wall but We choose to ignore very important clues (Red Flags). We should be more discerning about who We are going to have sex with 'cuz sex IS how We get these Babies - We need to give OurSelves more TIME to make good Selections/Decisions. Love IS a choice and We should choose well. It takes TIME to KNOW a persons' Character. Men will have sex if it's made available - and while We love sex too, Our concern should to be to build Our nest(s) with Reliable Men who will be good Husbands and Fathers. Babies like very much to grow up in a happy home with Mommy AND Daddy both present..........just saying
WE (women) need to make Better, more Mature Decisions about who WE are going to make Babies with. It takes TWO to make these Babies and often WE are not making wise decisions. The writing is most usually on the wall but We choose to ignore very important clues (Red Flags). We should be more discerning about who We are going to have sex with 'cuz sex IS how We get these Babies - We need to give OurSelves more TIME to make good Selections/Decisions. Love IS a choice and We should choose well. It takes TIME to KNOW a persons' Character. Men will have sex if it's made available - and while We love sex too, Our concern should to be to build Our nest(s) with Reliable Men who will be good Husbands and Fathers. Babies like very much to grow up in a happy home with Mommy AND Daddy both present..........just saying
Don't stress about it. My baby daddy kicked me out at 16 weeks and it was really hard to find a place to live, I'm 24 weeks 6 days and till this day he hasn't contact me, I'm over it, you don't need a man to raise your child, specially a man that thinks he can come and leave whenever he wants. Be strong anfd think about how much your baby needs you 100% in every way. Just think about your baby and of you're sad they're sad too. Be happy :) at the wnd you'll have your baby and don't need him, its okay you're not alone in things like this. Go to counseling or groups ^-^ it helps and let the stress out and stay happy for your baby :) congratulations with your baby :) stay strong ♡
Girl let me tell you. I passed through the same thing wen i has 2 months pregnant, kicked me out, went back with mom, instagram & facebook pictures of him drinking and smoking i was hurt but guess what i changed my number didnt reach out to him at all for months. Had to go to ER ended finding out i was gonna face miscarriage if i didnt do bed rest, yet they did first time sono and they surprised me with the news im having twins boy and a girl thats why i was high risk. So i told my sister and fam the news, she calls my baby daddy they talk she tells him the news and ever since then all we been doing is working on our relationship. Now he text me every 5 minutes lol ever since that day. Give it time trust is gonna hurt at the beggining but it will be wortg it. For now just think about the baby
Oh, I will. I can guarantee that. And I hope that when you have time to sit and really think about your situation and you re-read your post, you realize that you are strong enough to be without that guy. Like I said, I was in your same situation with a really bad guy. I truly hope you don't make the same mistake I did, and go back, thinking he'll change and suddenly care. I hope you have the will to stay away and the resolution to know that you alone, are better for your child than you dealing with the baby's father and hating your life. Bc, as soon as he gets it through his head that you don't need him, he's going to put on the best act in human history. Don't fall for it. You'll be better off. And even though I know you were being a total smart-*ss, it doesn't bother me and I hope you have a nice day too.
@GxoK I read it.. but if you can't read that I wasn't snapping, it's the way you read it.. if you knew me as a person you would know no attitude was given to anyone on here .. I know he's my enemy . I never said you were .. OK , that settles it . Have a nice day ! :)
Jessika20. You're so right.. this didn't start till I was pregnant. I'm giving space , I'm not going to chase him.
Ur assuming things, and misreading what I said and taking it personally, btw. Chill. Just bc I said a generalized statement doesn't mean I was directing it AT u. It was a GENERALIZED statement. And, yet again, I definitely said, TWICE (4 times if u count me repeating myself in the second post), that I was not saying that to excuse his actions. Want me to capitalize it? It's obviously escaping ur view..... The way ur acting over a GENERALIZED STATEMENT may have something to do with things.... B careful tho. I don't want u flipping out over me generalizing again. Heaven forbid. Relax sweetheart. Ur man is ur enemy...obviously. Not us.
My fiance tried to kick me out when I was 20 weeks pregnant then when he seen that I called my mom an told her me an my son where going to go stay with her for a while an I packed mine an my sons things he realized what he did. Still to this day we argue cause he's not doing anything to prepare for the baby. You just have to give him time. Once your baby is born he will realize oh sh*t that's my baby I need to step up or I am going to be put on child support for the next 18-20 years. Just give him his space let him do whatever it is he wants to do an when the time comes he will realize he made a mistake. Wish you the best of luck.
I was done when you said he slapped you and pulled your hair....I'm sorry but to hell with him...get your own stuff together and leave him where he is...he's going to continue doing things like that because he figure you'll let him and you won't go anywhere
@GxoK I wasn't being snarky, or bitchy but of course if you're saying some girls need to think before we speak then it makes it seem like you're assuming I don't do so.. like everyone else, we can't control how we feel sometimes with the fatigue and being annoyed on certain days ... but you can't assume that a lot of pregnant women use being pregnant as an excuse or hormones to be bitchy .. sometimes it's more than that..
@annikins95 Of course I'm not going to state he hit me.previously in my post to.begin.. but some people get defensive and have to break it down that hey I'm not the b*tch here, there's more to just what I wrote . So, therefore I further went into detail
@annikins95 Of course I'm not going to state he hit me.previously in my post to.begin.. but some people get defensive and have to break it down that hey I'm not the b*tch here, there's more to just what I wrote . So, therefore I further went into detail
@Annikins95 he's not that young . He's 26 .. so I guess he should've known that before getting me.pregnant again, because I miscarried in january, that he should've thought of the responsibility before doing what's already done.. I can't make him grow up like I wish he could.. but I guess he wasn't as ready as he thought
You also need to understand that you didn't state that he had put his hands on you in the post or in your comments either until GxoK
Wow. Chill. I said twice I wasn't saying any of that to excuse his actions. I've been in an abusive relationship so I know what it's like but re-read what I said bc I clearly said I wasn't excusing what he did. And if he's gonna pick on u while pregnant, then that should've been a big wake up call bc it won't stop with u. It'll go onto ur kid too. But yeah, definitely said, verbatim, 'I'm not saying any of this to excuse his actions'. So, relax. No need to get snarky with me.
Honestly he probably doesn't quite understand what is going on and how this will affect him. You need to look at it from his point of view also.hes young and probably isn'tready to grow up
F×ck that..u dont deserve that no matter what u said..and sleeping isnt.something 4.him.2.get.mad about its something he needs 2 b understanding of..im.sure.if.he felt like.sh!t and.was exhausted u.would let him.ssleep and take care of him!!...as women we r expected 2 do that..but men get excuses for "being overwhelmed"...not.okay..u deserve much better!!!im sorry hun..ur..strong lady and ull.get thru this.with or without him..and ifnu do decide u want 2 go.bak with him...he cant be allowed 2 treat u like that..and abuse u..he needs therapy and anger management...ur pregnant and.can.maybe be bitchy sometimez..what the heck.isnhis excuse????....anyway...men will treat u the way u let them sometimez..sadly....make it clear ur not gunna put up with it..be strong.momma..best wishes
I feel really bad for you but my child's father has been M.I.A my entire pregnancy and it hurts and i someyimes cry but you've got to lookforward like i do and realize that soon your going to have someone in this world that's going to love you unconditionally without worrying about your attitude. As mothers we have to be selfless when it comes to our children and that means doing what we have to so we can be positive enough to keep them happy. Let him go! And find happiness in the future. You can not make him be a responsible man.
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