If you like a girl and she likes you are you supposed to talk a lot during the day?

[Rywol]

Just asking this so I don't mess anything up or smother her or something. I just don't want to mess up as she is a girl with a good personality

[Nighthawk61]

I agree that you've had some insightful advice and I appreciate it that you've acknowledge that. On a forum like this, we take what we want and discard the rest. I think it was very insightful for instance to guage your calling your girl, based on what her habit is to call you. That would mean that you do back off and wait. for her call, rather than to jump in and call her, wondering where here head is at. Actions speak louder than words. Her actions will guide you. Alternately , If your girl is calling too often for you to focus on your academic good standing then lovingly let her know that you will talk to her in your private time. For her own good too. So that she does the right thing  and fulfills her destiny outside of any romantic involvement.

I'm sure your family are very proud of your academic success. Keep up the good work next term. Enjoy your summer and treat yourself to one new hobby at least, As you progress in school, it will really help to have hobbies not just homework to help you relax. I'm just getting started with Pyrography, (wood burning) and it's really relaxing. BTW, i find your caring enough to ask about how to please a woman, quite refreshing.

[Rywol]

Thank you for the advice and I will certainly take that into consideration

[Chima7]

I think the important thing to remember is that when you're just starting to get to know someone and even after you start dating someone (if it progresses to that stage), is to not make that person the entire center of your universe. It's important for both people to maintain their own individual life apart from that other person, filling it up with other activities, friends, and hobbies, so that you don't become 100% dependent on the other person to be your everything. Because every relationship is a gamble. You can not control the other person's feelings, behaviors, or actions, you can only control your own. And there's always a chance that one of you may get bored or find someone else or generally may just decide the relationship isn't working out. As long as you've maintained your independence throughout the relationship you'll be able to move on without being completely devastated. Whereas, if you make that other person your entire world (or vice versa), then you'll be in a really bad place if it doesn't work out. As long as you keep that in mind then just go with the flow and don't spend all your time obsessing about anything in particular.

[Rywol]

Alright well my posts are also from months ago and I can assure you I've gotten the help that I need. So I can assure you that I am ready for a relationship. I came here asking a very generalized question which in no way was obsessive at all. So yes you are making a VERY hasty generalization. And please, school is the least of my worries now as its over for the summer and I'm at the top of my class anyway. So don't act like you know everything. I came here for the advice that the first person so nicely gave me, not to be judged on my past by someone like you.

[Londres70]

@16 years old you really need to be more focused on school other activities.

[Londres70]

Hasty generalization about you?  I don't think so.  I have read other posts you have posted.  I am merely basing my opinion on what YOU have posted.  And most of your posts seem to be obssessing about messing up with a girl or focusing on a girl.  I only know what you have posted............nothing more and nothing less.  My opinion is you are obssessing.  You are correct I don't know you, HOWEVER, I can read what you have posted.

Plus, you have mentioned yourself you've got issues, thus I think you should be more focusing on sorting yourself out BEFORE seeking a relationship.  You just don't sound ready to be seeking a relationship and that conclusion I came to AFTER reading your posts.  

The types of questions you are posing and the way you are posing them indicates you just aren't ready for a relationship.

I asked if you were seeking therapy not to be cruel but to see if you are sorting YOU out.  If you are seeking therapy, I would be entertaining these questions you are posting here with the therapist.

[Rywol]

Alright I didn't come here to be assumed of obsessing over someone. I came here for help in asking a very regular question only to be given a very hasty generalization by you. I don't appreciate the way in which you speak to me when you don't know who I am or anything about me for that matter.

[Londres70]

There seems to be a common thread in most of your posts..............obssessing over a girl you like.

Are you seeing a therapist for your psych issues?

Wanting to chat a lot throughout the day looks a bit needy and clingy.  

Let her be first to do some of the contacting.

[specialmom]

Well, this is a difficult question.  In all honesty, I think it is best to have a busy life in which you may 'check in' with someone here and there but aren't sitting around trying to chit chat all day.  Work, go to school, be productive.  That is very attractive to me.  My husband and I talk during the day when we need to about a particular happening or we may briefly check in.  But in general, he and I have busy lives outside of each other.  

Don't make any girl the center of your universe. But do check in.

If you find she is someone that wants to talk all the time, you may find her to be a bit too needy.  That gets old.  

good luck