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KY JElly the enemy?
Question for you kind ladies again. My lady love\hug buddy. Has to use lubrication for physical reasons but tends to react with anything other than KY jelly. I personally feel that KY jelly makes a past that with the feminine condoms that I prefer we use has a paste like consistency. And just feels disgusting. I have know problems with lubes as a rule just KY and she has not really experimented with differing types as she finds a vaginal/ vulval rash discomforting. As would most people I'd imagine.
Any people walk this road who want to give feedback?
This is not a matter of foreplay this is more having to do with a surgery she had years ago.
Any people walk this road who want to give feedback?
This is not a matter of foreplay this is more having to do with a surgery she had years ago.
Well, the first post was difficult to understand compared to later posts but I think I got what you were asking... if this is totally unrelated or anything I apologize.
My doctor thought that I was having problems with KY (we use the KY silk) and recommended that I try Extra Virgin Olive Oil. She said that it was the last time I could say I was extra virgin anything - haha. Made me laugh. Anyway, it turned out I was allergic to condoms, so I didn't try it myself but while trying other products, you could add that one to the list.
Good luck!
My doctor thought that I was having problems with KY (we use the KY silk) and recommended that I try Extra Virgin Olive Oil. She said that it was the last time I could say I was extra virgin anything - haha. Made me laugh. Anyway, it turned out I was allergic to condoms, so I didn't try it myself but while trying other products, you could add that one to the list.
Good luck!
Sweet Almond Oil makes a wonderful massage oil and lube. Not goopy at all, nor does it dry out. Has virtually no taste.
I agree that some lubes are better than others--astroglide or the equivalent, i.e., great viscosity and not as sticky as other brands. I have found that some condoms make people physically sick--those with spermicide, so no blowjobs after a condom has been used (must shower off the chemicals).
I don't agree that lube isn't needed if sufficient "love and comfort" is provided--sometimes a lot of sex, say over a weekend getaway, will sap the moistness out of an otherwise persistently wet vagina. Even highly orgasmic women can encounter dryness brought on by their menstral cycle, diet, or exercise/sleep regime (changes), as well as climate/seasonal/altitude reasons.
I don't agree that lube isn't needed if sufficient "love and comfort" is provided--sometimes a lot of sex, say over a weekend getaway, will sap the moistness out of an otherwise persistently wet vagina. Even highly orgasmic women can encounter dryness brought on by their menstral cycle, diet, or exercise/sleep regime (changes), as well as climate/seasonal/altitude reasons.
Actually she did have a hysterectomy, and I was very patient...she wasn't. lol.
But we do all right now.
But we do all right now.
I'm not sure you check this forum anymore, but maybe others can be helped. I couldn't really follow the end of the coments but if I understand right, she doesn't have a hysterectomy? Either way, I have very similar problems with lube, condoms and allergies. Astroglide, KY and other store bought brands are terrible for use and rarely work. At more "professional" stores, such as your local sex toy store there are hypoallergenic lubes that in my opinion work awesome, such as I.D. Glide and other I.D. products. I litterally used to drive over an hour to find it but well worth it and lasts for hours.
One other, serious part is, I haven't had to use lube in years, because I have a man who is patient enough with my "issues" and enjoys foreplay. I believe oral sex is the best lubricant and it helps get things running. Women aren't sex dolls and having an orgasm is best for both ends and is truly meaningful and it needs to be enjoyed by both ends. I guess if you can't take enough time to go down on her and use enough foreplay and emotional support then KY is your best friend. Its kind of a two way street. Lube isn't needed if a woman feels loved and comforted, trust me. Just be patient with her and spend more time beforehand and you will work wonders.
One other, serious part is, I haven't had to use lube in years, because I have a man who is patient enough with my "issues" and enjoys foreplay. I believe oral sex is the best lubricant and it helps get things running. Women aren't sex dolls and having an orgasm is best for both ends and is truly meaningful and it needs to be enjoyed by both ends. I guess if you can't take enough time to go down on her and use enough foreplay and emotional support then KY is your best friend. Its kind of a two way street. Lube isn't needed if a woman feels loved and comforted, trust me. Just be patient with her and spend more time beforehand and you will work wonders.
Thanks for your invitation and graciousness. I'm still kind of in a bad mood about loosing my cool on the divorce forum and having the ibizan lady go after me.
I'm just not feeling well.
I would email, but I can't email other men. I try not to do anything that is not public with other men. Before any feminists go after me, my husband doesn't email other women privately.
Otherwise--you sound like a nice chatter.
Sorry I was a pain in the rear.
I'm just not feeling well.
I would email, but I can't email other men. I try not to do anything that is not public with other men. Before any feminists go after me, my husband doesn't email other women privately.
Otherwise--you sound like a nice chatter.
Sorry I was a pain in the rear.
No problem. As I said you usually give decent perspectives and I am not normally that short. The offer stands if you ever want to message me go ahead.
:)
And I really do hope you feel better soon. We all have personal stuff that makes us edgy occassionally, and Iam no different.
:)
And I really do hope you feel better soon. We all have personal stuff that makes us edgy occassionally, and Iam no different.
vindicated?
Sorry I asked as it was kind of personal. I forget email and posts are one-sided and lop-sided already.
Sorry I asked as it was kind of personal. I forget email and posts are one-sided and lop-sided already.
I am writing some things tongue in cheek but you have valid questions.
I prefer we use feminine condoms since I have been in a long term relationship for several years and do not currently do to well with the male type. Plus they have more sensation I think and she doesn't care and since I'm buying them does it matter? I think they need all the press they can get.
Non-orgasms bug her, not me, and I want her to relax and just let go.
I was tired when I tongue in cheek said the taste thing but when I was younger in the military and college I was wilder, and quite honestly I got a late start.
Lubes she's had hysterectomy and we have to use lubes. Jelly is a bit thick and she just doesn't want friction burns.
Shaving. Actually not applicable she falls into one of the ethnic groups I mentioned.
First lady I've known with a hysterectomy so I have had other posts dealing with other things that I don't much about, you may or may not have seen. Honestly I don't care if you have.
Just a sex relationship? Maybe maybe not. We are friends have been for I guess 8 years now. We do some activities together watch movies, fish etc So you make up your mind. As the resulting of that both of us are getting shape more and doing it on purpose for ourselves or each other... don't know we both enjoy the results so does it matter?
Change? going back to finish my degree. possibly a change and some other things.
Hmm I am psych major so I do like helping people. If I have questions I'm not bashful. Plus I am regrettably a smart *** and largely don't seek other peoples approval.
If there is anything else I can tell you that make you feel vindicated? I really don't care but if it's not too personal you can just message me that way if it's not too on topic we don't distract too much from the topic.
I hope you feel better soon.
Be blessed.
SS
I prefer we use feminine condoms since I have been in a long term relationship for several years and do not currently do to well with the male type. Plus they have more sensation I think and she doesn't care and since I'm buying them does it matter? I think they need all the press they can get.
Non-orgasms bug her, not me, and I want her to relax and just let go.
I was tired when I tongue in cheek said the taste thing but when I was younger in the military and college I was wilder, and quite honestly I got a late start.
Lubes she's had hysterectomy and we have to use lubes. Jelly is a bit thick and she just doesn't want friction burns.
Shaving. Actually not applicable she falls into one of the ethnic groups I mentioned.
First lady I've known with a hysterectomy so I have had other posts dealing with other things that I don't much about, you may or may not have seen. Honestly I don't care if you have.
Just a sex relationship? Maybe maybe not. We are friends have been for I guess 8 years now. We do some activities together watch movies, fish etc So you make up your mind. As the resulting of that both of us are getting shape more and doing it on purpose for ourselves or each other... don't know we both enjoy the results so does it matter?
Change? going back to finish my degree. possibly a change and some other things.
Hmm I am psych major so I do like helping people. If I have questions I'm not bashful. Plus I am regrettably a smart *** and largely don't seek other peoples approval.
If there is anything else I can tell you that make you feel vindicated? I really don't care but if it's not too personal you can just message me that way if it's not too on topic we don't distract too much from the topic.
I hope you feel better soon.
Be blessed.
SS
"with the feminine condoms that I prefer we use"
Why are all your posts more about your pleasure or how your partner should accept your choice in condoms, lubes, shaving preference, and non-orgasms?
Why don't you try to change something about yourself?
I'm sorry if I am being rude, but I am sick with a fever---been sick for a few days.
Maybe the fever is getting to me, but you always talk about your own pleasure and about how you like it.
About how many types (races, socioecon status) of women and their pubic hair you tasted....
Is this just a sex relationship? If so, then I'm sorry for being rude...
Heck..I'm sorry for being rude anyway.
Why are all your posts more about your pleasure or how your partner should accept your choice in condoms, lubes, shaving preference, and non-orgasms?
Why don't you try to change something about yourself?
I'm sorry if I am being rude, but I am sick with a fever---been sick for a few days.
Maybe the fever is getting to me, but you always talk about your own pleasure and about how you like it.
About how many types (races, socioecon status) of women and their pubic hair you tasted....
Is this just a sex relationship? If so, then I'm sorry for being rude...
Heck..I'm sorry for being rude anyway.
Why not change condoms? Are you talking about female condoms? Does anyone use those?
I would stick with the Ky or ask her to try the Ky liquid that the other person mentioned.
I would stick with the Ky or ask her to try the Ky liquid that the other person mentioned.
OH I am so sorry, I misread your statement. I now see she reacts to KY jelly products. Sorry! Good luck with finding a cure! :)
Well I had no idea why we all got given castor oil as a kid but I knew it tasted bad. Laxative maybe? We all got it and she's passed on now so I'll never know. Personally I just thought she was mean!
But I'll see if the ky liquids are about the same. I know I personally prefer WET or Astroglide brands so I've never looked at the other KY products. If the basic elements are the same I could probably even find that out online.
But I'll see if the ky liquids are about the same. I know I personally prefer WET or Astroglide brands so I've never looked at the other KY products. If the basic elements are the same I could probably even find that out online.
woah, never heard of that one! lol
Well I'm guessing that maybe she had a hysterectomy or something of the like? If I am wrong I apologize for jumping to conclusions. I know with me according to the ebb and flow of hormones monthly, I can have a couple days where I am pretty parched. And with a hysterectomy things really get thrown out of whack. We use a KY product although it's not the jelly. It's KY liquid. It works very nicely. MAybe you can ask her since she likes the KY jelly so much to try something else from the same brand. They have a TON of nifty items. Good luck!
Well I'm guessing that maybe she had a hysterectomy or something of the like? If I am wrong I apologize for jumping to conclusions. I know with me according to the ebb and flow of hormones monthly, I can have a couple days where I am pretty parched. And with a hysterectomy things really get thrown out of whack. We use a KY product although it's not the jelly. It's KY liquid. It works very nicely. MAybe you can ask her since she likes the KY jelly so much to try something else from the same brand. They have a TON of nifty items. Good luck!
Um ok.. but doesn't that have a strong scent? Is it ok with condoms? I will look it up though. I think I used to get that stuff from my g'ma when I was a kid!
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