I sure could use that web site...I seem to be having a problem posting this...I'll try again. Yes, the pain of my adult kids is literally destroying me.
I have the same situation as many of you. Four grown sons who offer me little support or consideration. I refuse to do a guilt trip or grovel. I agree that the best course may be to distance myself and build my own satisfactory relationships.
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Availablescrname, I also have 4 grown sons who sound like yours. I can ignore 3 of them and not let them bother me. However, the 4th one and his 2 children live with us. The mom walked out when the children were very young. They are now 7 and 6. I get along with them and we are very close. I even homeschool them. My son seems to resent this closeness that we have and he gets very nasty with me at times. I'm not really sure how to deal with this. I do not want to lose my grandchildren when they eventually move out. It's pretty tough. I've gotten past the other 3 and I just pray that I never need to depend on any of them.
To those of you who are still giving money to your adult kids and/or allowing your adult kids to still live with you while they continue to treat you with disrespect.....tell them the well has gone dry and they will have to move and become a real adult. Then take their bed down and do not allow them to ever live with you again. Absolutely no one deserves to be treated with such disrespect. If they take your grandkids from you, so be it, take their a$$ to court, there is a law it is called "Grandparents rights" The can NOT legally take the kids from you, you have the right to see and be with your grandkids.now this varies from state to state, in some cases you can get custody of them, so read up on it, in your state. Read this http://www.enotes.com/everyday-law-encyclopedia/grandparents-rights
but whatever you do, please do NOT allow anyone to treat you with disrespect, especially your own kid.
Just wondering how you folks are doing? I have a similiar story to tell, hence I can sympathise with you. :(
I am a single Mom going what you have gone thru....my heart is broken...If you are interested I would like to tell you my story and learn how yours has turned out a couple years later..... Thank you