I think porn is wrong when you a relationship. I met a guy I was interested in and he told me that he liked porn. This made me suspicious as most guys try to hide it. Of course he had his reasons for telling me this. I consulted the famous clairvoyant and tarot reader Rosemary Price psychic, and she told me what he was up to. He was making his own videos with young women he paid, very amateurish, but doing it so that he could appear in the videos with them and then trying to sell them - unsuccessfully - but he still made the videos anyway. He liked to think of himself as some sort of artist, actor, director and producer, it made him feel important, silly fool. But what got me was that he thought of these women as objects and he was lining me up to hopefully get me to be in them too! Which was a bit odd as I am much older than them, but that is how it was. Everything that Rosemary told me turned out right. I also found out he had been in prison twice due to some of this stuff and had debt collectors after him and had some delusion that he would become a famous porn star to wipe out his debts. He really thought he would wipe out his debts and earn loads of money fcking gorgeous young women - when he was getting on, bald and fat. Hilarious.
One of the reasons he was so keen on me was that these young women did not want him. He had to "make do" with older and less attractive women in real life - women like him! But he was also after me because I have a lot of property and a successful business. So it is just as well that I consulted Ms Price and found all of this out beforehand and was wary. Once I saw signs she was right that was it, he was dumped.
I don't date coarse or sleazy guys, dishonest guys, dont need to, better off single.
Have now been married for years to a wonderful Professor. He thinks it is disgusting to swear, or owe money, let alone the far worse things that some of these other guys do.
I live in the UK where someone of eighteen is considered an adult and could well be married or living with a guy and have kids with him. So not sure how we would see that as somehow wrong due to her age.
I’m confused as to why a number of women have dealt with this AND chose to tolerate it. Yes, you may have kids and a past with this guy, but you and your life are worth a lot more than what you tolerate. Be kind to yourself. Life is short.
There is zero reason to turn this situation on yourself and question your value or attractiveness. If anything you should be questioning your husband’s value and attractiveness after this. It’s obvious he has pedophile tendencies if that is the bulk of his history. This is what he craves/is addicted to. Who knows what else will stem from this, if it hadn’t already. It would be different if there were a couple of videos of teens, as a lot of porn has teen in the title even if you’re not looking for it. GTFO NOW. Better to be single than wonder about this all your life.
Talk to him and ask him to stop. I have been there myself for 5 years and it didn't help nice talking but after me throwing his phone away he changed. Now, he has been porn free for 3 years.
My boyfriend is 24 as well as I am. I recently seen in his phone that he views teen porn when I asked him he says that it's legal they're adults posing as teens.., it still concerns me and rubs me the wrong way. We've been together for 8 months and I love him dearly his a hard working bring humble calm young man but I notice how he looks at women when we're out in public and it's a concern of mine. I was molested at a young age and if I choose to have a future with him I wouldn't want that happening to my children. Any help and tips?
I am right there with you! my boyfriend, and father of our 10 month old daughter, watches teen porn daily. not for hours, but it is a daily occurrence. a few months back he was also on our local Craigslist casual encounters personals... I confronted him about that and he has quit.
he is the closest thing to perfect in a man except for the daily porn ... BUT recently I found he messaged a girl he knows on Facebook asking for new pictures cause he wanted "new material"... very saddened. I don't believe he is cheating on me- there is no time but I still feel betrayed. he had a gambling problem and has been going to weekly meetings the past 4 months which I am so proud of. hopefully he can get a handle on this problem as well, because I can't accept it and I have tried...
You are welcome and this needs to be confronted head on. He either gets help, put computer in your room, counseling, seperation and if all else fails, you need to re-evaluate if you want to continue in the marriage.
Hi guys,
Just want to say that you for taking the time to read my post and give me valuable advice. I guess I am afraid and concerned in case he tries to pursue niave 18 year olds. I would find it very degrading and embarrassing if he did. I think my biggest fear is him having an underlying desire to be sexually active with teens. I know that this might me affecting my self esteem, in terms of, him looking at young women, but I have enough self respect not to stay with him if he doesn't get this addiction resolved. I know it is going to be extremely hard to rectify this because I think he has been doing this for years.
Thanks again guys,
Ginny
you better watch him, if he is into teen porn that much it wil not be long until he is into teens for real, what kind of life is that luck jo
Your concern is justifiable and it sounds as he might have a porn addiction. It's time to confront him with your findings and get an explanation for his behavior. Discuss with him how his behavior is affecting you and making you feel self conscience. If I were you, I would surprise him and bring the computer into your bedroom. Tell him you are considering other plans for the "computer room" and right now need the computer in your bedroom or confront him and tell him that since he can't be trusted on the computer, you want it in the room immediately.
Other options if you feel the relationship is in trouble, recommend a counselor to get to the bottom of the real problems in your relationship.
It does sound like a porn addiction to me. I have had experience with this (my soon to be ex-husband) and it took something drastic for him to change. We would have a big fight about it and he would say he threw everything out and then I would find it stashed somewhere. Or I would find out that he went and bought more and hid it from me. He also has some fetishes that turned into addictions as well. I tried watching porn with him and participating in some of the fetishes (as much as I could stand) because I loved him and thought that I could learn to accept these things. It turns out it gave him an excuse to go even further with things and pretty soon he was asking me to do some pretty strange stuff. It took me saying I wanted a trial separation (for other reasons as well) for him to finally get rid of everything once and for all. I no longer find porn history on the computer and unless he's got it hidden well, I don't find anything else.
My advice to you is find a time where you are both calm and relaxed and there are no kids around and bring it up. He'll get defensive, no doubt and he'll be pissed that you snooped on him. But just tell him how you feel and hopefully he will understand and want to get help. I doubt it's something he can do without professional help (from the sounds of how often and how long he views it). He's not going to be happy to hear that but he's going to have to accept it or he's going to lose you. And stand your ground too because if you give him an inch...well you know the rest.
I wish you the best of luck, hon.
Guys watch porn. Not all but lots. You have to think of it as you are better than them. He IS with you, he ISNT with them. You might want to check up on the income. Maybe his pay stubs to see if he is working extra hours. Be more open with him about it. Like ask him what hes doing when you go to bed. Be open but not accusing about the porn topic, so it doesnt seem so tabu. Guys will hide anything if they think they are being judged by it. If all he is doing is looking at porn and you dont HAVE PROOF he is cheating, you need to trust him. Ive had the same sort of issue but he isnt cheating, I just never think Im good enough. Hope this helps. All teh best with your medical condition and hubby situation.