I appreciate your advice. I am so torn about it. I want to believe him but what I'm so hung up on is the Craislist add. So now I construction check his phone, made him change his email and everything. I have all his passwords. And a location on his phone at all times. I know that sounds excessive but that's how I know he isn't messing around on me. We get along so well. He is like my best friend and I can imagine my life without him. We even bought a house together. What's bothering me now is that he continues to watch gay porn and tranny porn. And I feel like that effects our sex life. I use to be a very sexual person having sex with my partner every single day. But now with him... I've lost it. I have pushed him away and question if he is actually attracted to me. I know this sounds stupid for me to even be considering staying with him as I obviously have trust issues. I don't know what it is. I don't wanna give up on him and I do love him.
If I were in your shoes I'd end things with this guy. He is clearly very confused about his sexual orientation and there's no reason for you to have to sit around and suffer while he figures it out.
Oh my. Well, if he was just curious about shemales and sex of any sort with other men, he could view porn (online these days, readily accessible). He was on Craigslist soliciting. That is totally different. If he were soliciting for females, it would be just as bad. He was amping up to cheat. No matter what he says, there is no other way to explain it. I've had to place an add on Craigslist. There are steps involved that you aren't going to take 'for fun'. He was really placing an ad hon. Don't know about ED. He sounds to have significant hang ups in general. And possibly may be gay. And to me, regardless, if your sex life is this bad and you want a normal, healthy sex life--- then you aren't getting what you need in this relationship. We date so that we can find these things out before we tie ourselves to someone forever. If you are okay with a sexless relationship (well, practically) and would be okay with a man who leads a double life-- then okay. And having a companion would work for some people. But you'd have to know this and stop questioning it. Just let it be. Otherwise, I think this relationship has enough significant issues to warrant your moving on. good luck