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My fiancée's family
I just became engaged to the love of my life and the man of my dreams. We have been dating for a year and 2 months and have been wonderful, close friends for over 4 years. I was hospitalized and very sick for over 4 months about 8 months ago and it was then that I really realized that life wont go on without him. Anyways i'm having a really hard time being around his family. His parents speak spanish at home to him and his three brothers and only speak english to me. I understand that his parents want to speak it at home because it's their background but I hate it because I have no idea what they are ever talking about and I know my fiancée would tell me if it was anything about me or whatever but I hate it. I have only eatten dinner with them once and don't want again now because I sat there and ate while they all talked but I had no idea what was said and then all of a sudden when they wanted to talk to me they would switch to english then go back to spanish. We are going to Mexico for Christmas this year and I am not looking forward to it at all because I will be excluded like always. I am only doing it and sacraficing my holiday for my fiancée because I love him and we wont be able to go back for a while because we will be starting a family soon and he hasn't been in several years. I just dont know what to do about this, do I tell my fiancée how I feel eventhough he gets upset or what?
i love that last sentence LOL!! very well said!!! i was thinking the same exact thing...
4everdk
whoa!! you are way out of line here... you have some major issues.
i told myself that i wasn't going to respond to this nonsense, but your last comments hit very close to home.
first of all, do yourself a favor and find out if your MEXICAN fiance is legal. you've been together for how long?? and you don't even know his legal status?? hmmm... makes me wonder what kind of marriage you'll have w/ this guy.
second, "you live in america, you speak english"? how closeminded are you?!?! have you not read anything from the other posters?? all these different cultures and backgrounds are what makes america! but you know what? i'm not even going into that because nothing anybody says here will make you understand.
i was born in mexico, raised here and i speak both languages, that alone is enough to make me a better person than you'll ever be!
que mente tan serrada la tuya, pobre de tu novio...
another little lesson... :-)
4everdk
whoa!! you are way out of line here... you have some major issues.
i told myself that i wasn't going to respond to this nonsense, but your last comments hit very close to home.
first of all, do yourself a favor and find out if your MEXICAN fiance is legal. you've been together for how long?? and you don't even know his legal status?? hmmm... makes me wonder what kind of marriage you'll have w/ this guy.
second, "you live in america, you speak english"? how closeminded are you?!?! have you not read anything from the other posters?? all these different cultures and backgrounds are what makes america! but you know what? i'm not even going into that because nothing anybody says here will make you understand.
i was born in mexico, raised here and i speak both languages, that alone is enough to make me a better person than you'll ever be!
que mente tan serrada la tuya, pobre de tu novio...
another little lesson... :-)
THE LAST SENTENCE IS A LITTLE LESSON IN SPANISH, MAYBE YOU CAN FIGURE IT OUT OR MAYBE YOU CAN ASK YOUR SPANISH SPEAKING, POSSIBLY ILLEGAL FIANCE FROM MEXICO , I AM SURE HE KNOWS WHAT THIS MEANS.
OMG! This little girl is so way off! How In the F***, do you want to marry a mexican guy, boy, man, when you dont even know if he is legal in the United States ? With the thoughts and mentality of your little 18yr old mind. Your comment about the posters either not being white or someone we live with not being white is so f****n stupid .I am more irratated than offended. Yes I am mexican and very proud, very legal by the way. I was born in Orange County, California almost 32yrs ago, and F.Y. I about 95 percent of the men that I dated were as you stated "blonde, blue eyed and very white" I am not just agreeing because I am mexican, but because even though I was born in this country I probably still share alot of the same ideas, thoughts or beliefs that you might have regarding the United States (believe it or not) but it does not make me less of a mexican, or have less regard to the family that I was born into and the values and customs that my parents passed on to me, even having being born in this country. And I can honestly say this is the case with most mexican families. Not knowing the status and legality of your fiance is very ironic, and laughable, you admitting that your family will not accept him according to his legal status and you dropping your family for him at the drop of a dime is very contradicting . I'ts very clear you are selfish, immature and not firm in what you want at this point in your very young life. Maybe your fiance is illegal and wants to marry you for legality reasons. Did you think about that? And maybe thats why he says he will drop his family for you, it's very common you know. You are right, we cant help who we fall in love with, but we can help who we marry and everything that us marrying that person will bring into our lifes. ! Pobre muchachita! Buena suerte pendeja!
lmao. umm, i am native american, pretty much as american as they come sweetie, and my signifigant other, he is irish and native american. we both are insulted that anyone would deprive their children from their family just to prove that "if you're in america you should speak english" you have been given so many good opinions and helpful tips.why not just try some? america is a melting pot of cultures. that is what founded the america you know and love today.
i disagree with you because you are being overbearing and selfish. any race could see that.
you are young and naive. you are setting yourself up to be hurt and you will probably drag your fiance along that road too. it's very unfortunate. you may be responsible with regards to employment, but that is only one of many steps into adulthood. it's time to take the rest if you are contemplating marriage and family.
" I never would have thought that I would have married anyone who wasn't white, blonde hair, blue eyed.... " this is an interesting insight into who you are.
good luck dear.
i disagree with you because you are being overbearing and selfish. any race could see that.
you are young and naive. you are setting yourself up to be hurt and you will probably drag your fiance along that road too. it's very unfortunate. you may be responsible with regards to employment, but that is only one of many steps into adulthood. it's time to take the rest if you are contemplating marriage and family.
" I never would have thought that I would have married anyone who wasn't white, blonde hair, blue eyed.... " this is an interesting insight into who you are.
good luck dear.
Interesting! I am not even going to say anything! Good Luck I suppose.
Well, she's not that much past 13. Just a few years. Its amazing how not one person out of how many, are in agreement with her, and she still thinks what she plans is the right, normal, and just thing to do.
Sadly, so many children of 18 are this way. They want what they want, when they want it, and the hell with anyone who stands in the way of what they want.
She'll understand when she grows up. She's just too young now. I think we're all expecting a bit too much from someone of that age.
Sadly, so many children of 18 are this way. They want what they want, when they want it, and the hell with anyone who stands in the way of what they want.
She'll understand when she grows up. She's just too young now. I think we're all expecting a bit too much from someone of that age.
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