I went on a date with someone for the first time the end of May 2016. we met at a dance club. since then we have been intimate with our friendship. and we were doing the friend thing and having fun and also having an intimate sexual relationship. then i realized, or had been thinking, how can i define our relationship. are we friends, dating, a couple, friends with benefits, so yea, the list can go on and on. i don't even think he could say monogymy, he jus said "the M" something like " I can do the M thing"
and since October 2016 I've been exclusively just sleeping intimately with him. and the election almost put a wedge between us.
but lets not go there, thats another topic, and i am like Geometry. tagents all day!
just before christmas my sister came and visited. and thats when we once again had to redefine the relationship. at least explain to my sister who this man was and what his or mine or our intentions are..... were..... etc.
and he said as long as i behave we'll be together. LOL! and once again we discussed the nature of sleeping around and he did say one of me is just enough for him.
slight tangent. cuz i forgot to mention, i am naughty! so behavior is totally relevant.
but moving along with my story, next came the holiday and we celebrated christmas together
and christmas day was wonderful. very emotional too.
i got a hillary doll. i cried. moving on cuz i can't let a petty political wedge ruin this.
and then literally the day after xmas. he got sick. flu. vomit. gotta go gotta go. the works. you name it.
and sick for the whole week. he called in a couple of days from work. i worked throughout the week. i offered help and he declined. so i insisted, and brought medicine and the BRAT diet. gatorade. coconut water. get well card. applesauce. rice. imodium. pepto. tylenol and tylenol pm.
and now i ask myself..... did i not go over enough while he was sick? should i have brought medicine over sooner?
then comes another holiday new years eve comes and he goes to hospital cuz hes been ill for a week.
and jus like with the flu, increase liquids, follow brat diet, youre dehydrated. here's an iv. thats what the hopsital did for the visit for his flu (thats generally what they do with everyone with the stomach flu who goes to see the doc, right?)
and so new years comes around and i bring the celebration to him at his house.
and he is sick.
and last weekend we went to a house warming party with some mutual friends. he is still somewhat sick. hardly drank any beer or anything.
now its another 7 days later, and he is still a little sick.
mind you for the past 7 months we have both worked full time jobs and have sundays off together. we don't live together and we live on diff parts of town. generally speaking we only hang out on the weekends and almost every sunday night since last may. we've gone out of town here and there but for the most part once a week we visit hang out visit, slumber, just enjoy each other's company.
and this past fall we tried to go out on tuesday nights, stay the night together and again stay the night together on sat or sun nights. so we stayed together 2 to 3 nights a week.
but since the illness i've kept my distance and i miss him.
i've seen him the past for the past three weeks. and stayed the night on the weekend.
last night i stayed at his house and we both slept on the couch downstairs with the tv on, when we generally sleep in bed together, but sometimes we do sleep down stairs on the couch.
so now that i have kind of set the scene, i have all the questions but the most important questions to ask now in summary is: am i trippin? should we move in together? should we redefine our relationship again? is our age difference so relevant and is it playing a role in our dynamic? he doesn't want me to take him out or buy him things. he wants to be moderately frugal. is that weird? do you think he is bothered by this past presidential election by seeing that something so petty could come between us? this next one is prolly silly, but...... is it a big deal that one facebook i used to say single and his used to say its complicated(its been that since i met him... possibly b4 i met him). now mine says im in a relationship and his hasn't changed.