My hubbie wont talk to me :(

[ManicPanic247]

I have been going through some major mood swings lately, as i have been suffereing from Anxiety/Panic Disorder. I dont scream or anything, but i'll just get an attitude for like no reason and i take it ll out on my husband.

2 Nights ago, we both went upstairs to lay the baby in the crib because she had fallen asleep on my husband, as he was laying her down he did the loudest, longest fart and it made her wake up, and i said "stupid ***!!!" kinda like "why would you do that~!" and he totally was like whatever, got sooo mad at me! left the room and hasnt talked to me since.

Thats our problem. When we fight, we first argue and then just dont talk to eachother for a long time, but i always try to make up he stays mad........do you think maybe he wants me to like butter him up or something, like he wants attention???

I really dont know. He says i always start fights because i always get attitudes with him and he tired of it. I try to stop but im going through some health issues so i cant really help it, plus i recently quit smoking too.........Please give me some advice on what to do. Im always apologizing to him, he has never once apologized cause he says im the one who's always in the wrong.

[ManicPanic247]

thanx

[bedtimestory]

He gets mad easily too, like one time we were on the phone and i hung up on him and he said if i ever did it again he was getting a divorce......i was Rolling on the floor Laughing my a** off but he was dead serious about it lol

I'm laughing, too. Perhaps RockRose's second point is the right one. After what I just read then I think his ways towards you or anyone are not appropriate. This is why we have to really make sure the person we are with is the right one. The fact that we love somebody doesn't make him/her the right person for us and we have to be realistic about it. Know the person first... although they say us women change when we get married....is that true?

Anyways, if he was like that before you guys got married then I think you had it coming, dear, don't complain now. If otherwise he wasn't like this then talk to him. I honestly think you two have to change..not just him or not just you but both of ya need to make some positive changes.

[ManicPanic247]

He gets mad easily too, like one time we were on the phone and i hung up on him and he said if i ever did it again he was getting a divorce......i was Rolling on the floor Laughing my a** off but he was dead serious about it lol

[ManicPanic247]

Well, he's the type of person where he thinks he right ALL the time, and when we argue he never even lets me get a word in.....His mother is the same exact way, so obviously he gets it from her

[RockRose]

I think there are two possibilities here.  

Either bedtimestory is completely right,  and you somehow need to reign your irritability back in,  or he's a whiney little baby who can't take any kind of criticism at all and becomes punitive and sulky when you complain about something you have a right to complain about.  For example,  purposely farting so loud that it woke the baby up who was 2 feet away at the time.  

In the past,  when you were at your happiest,  was he punitive and sulky then when you had a disagreement?

Best wishes.

[ManicPanic247]

No, the Anxiety/Panic is from an adverse reaction to an Anti-depressant that i was on for Post-partum depression.

[bedtimestory]

Well, you called him stupid. Since you're the one with the mood swings taking your anger/depression/panic attacks out on him then you should be the one saying I'm Sorry. The idea of not talking to each other for a long time is pretty common in many couples. I know people like that, too. I don't think that this is a good idea or even the right way to deal with problems. The worse thing you can do is stop talking to each other. On the contrary, when you have arguments you should try to talk and talk until you have no more energy, just to try and understand each other. Let me tell you, I think your hubby is patient with your disorder and all that. Try to control yourself by trying to have peace in your house. Is your Anxiety disorder due to post pregnancy?