Insecurity or fears relating to the past can do it too if not him being guilty. I’ve been in a relationship where the guy was not only guilty but had insecurities relating to girlfriends of his in the past and “their actions” as he perceived them to be. But he’d always be the everyone’s out to get me in this relationship / question everything because nothing is safe in this relationship type whenever he entered into a relationship with anyone almost expecting and waiting for the person to “do something to him”.
I feel like I am going through the same thing as well. my boyfriend of 4 years has done this for the past 2 years. I don't know what to do. He always thinks a I'm always lying. I have class 4 days a week and work 40hrs a week. How on earth would I have time to cheat. We live together and I'm always home other than class and work. When I get home he usually is at his buddy's house. It's really frustrating because I've have always been faithful and have always had his back. He does have low self esteem and has low confidence. So, i think that that could cause it. Could he be the guilty one? I need help as well:(
This is really interesting..cuz my GF sent me this link to proof I was acting that way..and doesn't realize that she is the one acting that way..she's always telling me that I don't love her -usually when she's drunk which is every weekend-, she tells me that she knows I'm gonna leave her soon, that I have a lot of friends (on Facebook) and probably am cheating (on FB, really?),and as regular behavior she threatens me and now she said that's what I'm doing ...and now apparently after reading this she said I'm cheating on her. Really? It's interesting, right?
ps: sorry if my English is not good.
My soon to be ex-wife was the same way. She drove away family and friends and created an unlivable home environment. Before we were married I found out that she went out with someone else while she was going out with me. She gave me a ridiculous excuse that it was a blind date that was set up months in advance and that is why she still went out with the guy. (Who makes blind dates months in advance?) This should have been a sure sign for me to get out. Oh well....what are you going to do it is too late now.
Anyway....I have come to find that she was stepping out while she was married to me also and she still denies it to high heaven meanwhile always accusing me of doing it. It is a deflection technique. Long story short...The advice you are getting is accurate. The people that act in this manner are usually the people that are guilty of the accusations themselves.
I would get out while you still can. It is only going to get worse.
This has more to do with him than it does with you. You should be highly offended! It sounds like maybe he is thinking you might be doing the same things he has done? Or he is terribly insecure and controlling. Either or, is not a good situation. I think I would be finding someone a little more mature.
The first thing that comes to mind is "the guilty dog barks first." It may be time to start digging a little deeper into his activities!
In my own experiences the accuser is usually trying to make the person that they are accusing feel bad because they (the accuser not the accusee) is guilty of just that.