my daughter crys for daddy

[raquelplus2]

As some of you had read my other posts you kinda have an idea of whats going on and the situation.  well our 3year old is starting to get very angry about her dad not being there  she tells me that hes mean and hates him for making mommy sad and cry. She asks why isnt home. She lashes out now crys screams throws bigger tantrums and is very emotional and tender. idk what to tell her bcuz he dont come around at all for a month now  and she was never used to being away from her dad. they wer very very close  and idk what to do  we dont speak at all and i dont think he hasnt any intention of speaking to me even about the new pregnancy. Its hard to keep it together when ur alone dealing with babies and bein preg and trying to be strong but you cant and i do cry alot actually i just dont no what to do.  guys if you could give me advice from a mans view that would help too thanks

[Judy246]

How tragic. She is just a baby of 3. It's your responsibility to protect her at all cost, so do not tell her anything negative about your relationship and her daddy. Keep her in a peaceful, tranquil environment and socialize her with children her age. Tell her her daddy love her and will see her soon, but do whatever it takes to protect her emotions, because she is very tender and will grow up with emotional issues of abandonment. You might want to contact a child psychologist on how best to reassure her that daddy does love her and will see her soon. Good luck...Judy

[raquelplus2]

thanks its just hard becuz i no he dont have any intention of comeing i feel it...weve never been apart this long b4 and everyone tells me the same thing uno like freiends and family say get over it  who cares bout him you deserv better  but i mean easier said than dun right. i mean hole  world everything i new since i was a teenager  was with him  every thing thas sorrounds me in my life is a constant reminder of  him and memories  to the point where i dont evn want to go home nemore so ive been staying at my gramas to ease the pain alil but it dont go away and the fact that i have to deal with this pregnancy alone is mortifying to me and i just dont no. i also feel like i shouldnt mak excuses for him to our daughter uno. but thanks so much for your advice.

[megochick101]

Oh hun I'm so sorry, i don't even know the kind of pain you must be going through. try as hard as you can to not cry in front of her. if she sees you crying it'll just make it worse for her. i would definitely have a talk to her about it, and tell her that daddy still loves her and that he just has to be away for awhile. Hopefully your a$$hole hubby(sorry) will come to his senses. And like punkin said try and talk to someone about it, someone who will be there for you and try to get all your feelings out on the matter. Or you could go to a therapist about the situation.

I guess just tell her that it's ok to cry and be upset but that she needs to be a big girl and talk about her feelings instead of throwing temper tantrums.

I don't know if any of this will help but hopefully it will. You could also try doing some special activities together so that both of you can take your minds off of the situation.

hang in there hun and if the hubby comes back i would advise going to a counselor so he can work out his problems.

[raquelplus2]

scroll down  and you can read my older posts  and will explain the situation  

[punkin1515]

Well I am lost. Why does he not come home? Please try not to show your daughter any negative feeling towards her dad. Talk to a friend or sibling. If she finds you crying.... tell her you got a boo-boo or something.
I really do not understand this post as this is the first post I have read on your situation. I am sorry for your situation. Could you explain please?? Thanx Cara