New Life or Old life

[PamWire]

A lot has happened in my life and recently I got engaged to a guy I've known since i was 12-13 yrs old. It was the best day of my life. Until i found out he wanted a kid. We had makeup sex after getting into a really bad argument. He failed to mention that he had not pulled out. And now as anxious as I am to find out if I'm pregnant it seems as thought all he wants is someone he can control. I love him dearly but don't know if I should stay with my new life or go back to my old life.

[AnnieBrooke]

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http://www.cchers.org/cap/about.html

[PamWire]

Thanks i will look into itit

[AnnieBrooke]

If all he wants is to control you, run and don't look back.  One of the other posters did a good thing in mentioning the Power and Control Wheel, look it up online and read the stuff in it.  If it sounds all too familiar, time to take a walk.  

On the other hand, just wanting a child is not by itself a power issue, it is a desire to be a dad.  Or, depending on the guy, it might be (a friend of mine in an awful, bullying marriage was talked into having four kids by him, and that was largely so she would not leave.  She had a lot more going for her than he did, and this was the way he kept hold of her).  You're the one with the evidence on this question.