POSSESSIVE OR CARING??

[Glo_worm]

so i told my stupid boyfriend that i wasn't going to be told what to do or who i was going to see and he stopped all that. his newest habit is bombarding me with questions. for instance. he calls me AT 5 on the dot. when i get off. i've told him that i don't like to talk on the phone and drive and that i'd rather call him when i get home. it takes me 30 min from home to work and a little longer b/c of 5 oclock traffic. so at 5:35 he's all like how was your day? do you want to see me? i didn't even walk thru my front door yet. i haven't spoken to my parents or sisters to know what we are doing for supper or if they need me for anything and he has to be right smack dab in the middle of it ALL. growing up i've liked to be left alone. i liked to swing and listen to music or just go ride my bike. i'm not hurting anybody. just minding my own business. and EVERYTHING i do he HAS to be the center of it all. he told me he needs to know everything about me. i told him i was going shopping. he wants to know why? i told him i needed clothes. he says why? i said for work. he says what's wrong with what you have? well honestly i sit down and the bottom of my pants leg reaches half way up my calf. he says who are you trying to impress? FOR GOODNESS SAKES I'M NOT TRYING TO LOOK UNPROFESSIONAL that's part of my job description. i'm the receptionist. i'm the first impression of the company!

a couple of other things he does that really really hurts my feelings. if i look at him he will make one of his eyes face out. and well the problem with that is i was born with a "lazy" eye and my eyes scoots off to the right side and i can't tell b/c i can't see out of it anyway. growing up kids who i considered my friends would literally stop me mid conversation and ask me if i was talking to them b/c i wasn't looking at them. well i've asked my b/f not to do that and i explained and he still does it just to tease me. he makes me feel like i'm being immature by getting upset about it and i can't help it. i don't like my flaws pointed out. especially something i literally can't control.

another thing. ever since i was little i stutter. not always just when i get excited or nervous. i can't help it. he laughs at me for that too. everything i do is wrong everything has to be done his way. and well since all he does is make fun of me i've asked him not to sit there and watch me. i get nervous i'll drop something or spill something. it's just never his standards. he gets mad at me if i don't text him the second i wake up. he says he needs to know i'm thinking of him. quite frankly i'm thinking of running away from him. far far away.

are all guys this way? b/c if they are then i'll just stay with him b/c i really can't handle anybody worse than that.

he's building a house and talking about marrige. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME.

[AnxiousGurl]

Dump his a$$ . Alls he does is control you and make fun of you...do you really want to be with this guy seriously you could do SO much better. Hes trying to make you feel guilty about him not getting affection from his family and by telling you he'd die without you........he'll say anything ANYTHING to keep his leesh around you. DUMP HIS POMPOUS A$$.

[extrmeski]

Sheese kick this guy to the curb already.  Think about it, all you hae done is post and post about all this crazy stuff.  What the freak??  What do you need a sign on your door??

[mami1323]

Haha...oh yeah, I forgot about her wanting to slit the babysitter's throat.  It's a latin thing I think...lol.

[AHP84]

Okay, I'm gonna put you and vsentz on my "don't mess with--they've got a scary side" list! Keep the knives away from you two!!!
Lol!

[mami1323]

Haha...I can't help myself.  I know my man is a moron but at least I'm aware that he is.  Let him hit me though, he better not sleep because I would be Lorena Bobitt on his a$$.

[AHP84]

"An a-hole is an a-hole regardless of what day it is."

Haha! That's SOOOO true!

[mami1323]

Wow, he has really done a number on you.  Brain washed you real good.  He will not kill himself, he's too into himself to commit suicide.  He uses that as a way to control and hold on to you.  Who gives a rats a$$ if his birthday is coming up.  It's of no importance.  An a-hole is an a-hole regardless of what day it is.  Shall I take out my little violin and play a song about the poor, verbally, mentally and physically abusive man doesn't get affection from his family.  What about your feelings?  Do they mean nothing?  I'm sorry, I just can't even feel bad for you anymore.

[Glo_worm]

THANK YOU FOR THE SWIFT KICK IN THE PANTS. really really really thank you.

thank you all

[msgorgeous]

Thats no reason to be with someone, your realationship is based on a lie, i didnt know there were previous posts to this or i would have told you read what the others have already told you. you dont break it off with this guy then its on you. him treating you like he does must not bother you that much if your stii with him

[AHP84]

Let his problems be his problems.
He will not die without you. He doesn't love you or care about you. What he likes is having you as his doormat. Someone he can laugh at. Someone he can be mean to. Someone who, in return, will put up with him doing that.
I dumped my ex and kicked him out of my house two days before Father's Day...and we have a son together. At that point, I didn't care, because I realized it's not worth caring about someone who doesn't return the favor.
But if you want to believe the junk he's feeding you, then by all means, feel sorry for him and subject yourself to staying with him.

[Glo_worm]

the ONLY reasons i'm with him is b/c he doesn't get much affection from his family he claims if i leave him he'll have noOne. he also tells me he'd die without me. and i don't want to leave him so close to his birthday sept 10th

[mami1323]

I agree with AJ 100%.  I was about to say the same thing.  I can even copy and paste the link from the other post you made about him being abusive to you.  I'm really not going to give you advice.  You already know how and what we feel about him.  YOU have to be the one to move on.  It's obvious he annoys you to no end.  You stay with him then you deal with his issues.  He's not going to change.

[msgorgeous]

YOU do not need this guy he sounds rude and controling. and for him to point out your flaws and be rude about it and tease you thats not right. i would get out now, hes not worth your time. there are guys out there who will treat you with respect, not all guys are like your boyfriend. dont settle because you think all guys are the same or worse. trust me you will find someone to love you for you flaws and all they will treat you the way you deserve, good  luck

[AHP84]

Glo, you've gotten excellent advice about this numerous times before, and you're about to get the same advice again.

Leave this guy. Dump him. Kick 'im to the curb. Let him go. Move on.
Put it however you want.

He is controling, possessive, domineering manipulative, and has shown himself to be physically abusive by kicking you once.

You call him your "stupid boyfriend." You don't like being treated the way he treats you. For goodness sake, WHY ARE YOU STILL WITH HIM?

And no, not all guys are like him. You're missing out on the really good ones by staying with this creep. How would you even come to find out if there are better men out there that know how to treat a woman like a princess if you don't give yourself the chance to seek them out?

I'm sorry, I don't mean to come off as sounding rude, but you're going to get the same advice now as you always have. Dump him.
But you probably won't, because you haven't yet. I'm sure you'll be posting again next month about a similar issue with him treating you like c r a p.