Past not staying in the past...

[Unsure439]

My b/f is only three years older than me and we have been together for almost two years.  I never really experimented as much as other girls my age have.  He on the other hand is very experienced.  I understand that and I am fine with it, most of the time.  

The only time I am not is when I have to hear about intimate details that happened between him and some of the other girls, such as faces they made during sex, why he slept with them, how long, how many times they reached climax, how I don't have the best body of the women he has been with, what they begged for, etc. (all things I have learned about his exes already.)

I have told him in the past that I do not like hearing these details and they make other people uncomfortable that he feels the need to bring them up so often and in front of me.  He says I need to get over it and hasn't really stopped.

I was recently sick and he got me dinner and some movies.  On the way home he mentioned that I should feel good  cause that was the most he ever spent on a girl in such a short time other than... and mentioned an ex and was like oh but that was at a bar and I was drunk.  He says all the time he has trouble with relationships but i am different and he loves me and wants to marry me, yet does this.

What can I say to make him understand?

[hottie069]

He sounds like a inconsiderate *****, he has no thought for how you may feel about this and is only interested in an ego boost for himself, he sounds very immature and feels he needs to brag about this to all a sundry, well i would be extremely hurt and upset if it was me, and would have to seriously consider my relationship with him, good luck hunni x

[jo929]

Why would you want to put up with a sick jerk like this for 2 years? you know that one day he is going to walk, and then you will just be one more girl, that he will talk about.
It seems he also does not listen to well. it sounds like he is controling you, and trying to make you like it, get out of this relationship,and find a decent man. lots of luck to you  jo

[Isabelle1963]

lol@Rock Rose!!! I was thinking the very same thing!!  

I gotta agree with RockRose.  Sounds like the reason you know this guy has an extensive past is because HE'S the one advertising about it.  I suppose if you want to spend your life hearing all about his "other women" and their performance then you should have no problem thinking of spending your life with Bozo. However, you should consider this,  partnership in marriage is exactly that.  A Partnership.  Don't let yourself get hung up in a relationship with a person who can't keep his mouth shut and has to tell everyone about his past.  The more i read your post, the more i keep thinking that "the reason he's having problems is because of his big mouth and his inability to keep it shut about his other relationships".

you'll have to decide for yourself how you feel and if you want to put up with it.  But it sounds like a long term thing with him and i can guarentee you that if  my Man was talking about me like that, he'd wake up one morning with one giant goose egg on his head from my iron skillet.  

Isabelle

[RockRose]

He sounds like a total jerk.  You're in a catch-22 here - I wouldn't spend one more minute with him but gads,  when you break up with him guess who's sexual behaviors he'll be talking about to the next woman?  

Eeks,  girl,  this guy is a loser.  When you break up with him,  and date someone normal you'll be amazed you put up with this ****.  Sometimes it's just hard to see when you're in the middle of it.   But before you break up,  do something REALLY wild in bed so at least he'll have a good story when he tells it.

[Jaybay]

Good Lord!  I wouldn't stay with that immature little boy for anything.  What on earth can he possibly bring to your life that is good for you?  

[Aloysia]

Well sounds to me like he has some insecurites going on and that he's looking for a reaction out of you... He has no right to bring up the past especially if it makes you feel this way. Talking about ex's is one thing but getting into detail about face expressions and all that is extreemly hurtful...I would completely ignore him when he talks about his ex's that way and act like it doesn't even bother you one bit. And if you've tried that or you can't ignore it then talk to him about how disrespectful it is to you. If he choses to carry on then I'd be looking elsewhere because it won't get better.. Good luck!!