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I know this is TMI. My boyfriend watches porn a lot he masturbates a lot and during sex his penis gets soft and struggles to finish no matter what, I think it's because he masturbates too much, am I wrong? It makes me very self conscious that he watches porn as if my body is not good enough for him or he doesn't like my sex...and I give him sex every day. I don't like complaining about it because he gets mad but it's to the point where I cry about it because I don't feel attractive anymore. I've never had this problem with anyone else.
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So, here is the thing. Men do often watch porn because it is SO easy. It's readily available these days and they don't have to cuddle with it when the are done. Grrr. But true. And it is proven, that when men masturbate too often, they do often then have trouble with 'real' sex. The porn just adds to that. He's a boyfriend. I'm really practical and I believe we date in order to find the best person to be with long term. And sometimes, the person we with are NOT the person we should be with long term. We are supposed to be critical while dating about this to make the determination. It sounds like your sex life with him isn't great and you two aren't really compatible. This is something to consider if it is important to you. Not every guy is into porn. My husband thinks it's fake and that's not a turn on for him. And not every guy that occasionally watches porn does it all the time and can't have sex with their partner because they are so used to the direct stimulation of masturbation. So, this just might not be the guy for you. Express yourself. If he doesn't take it seriously, becomes defensive and makes no change, I'd move on to find a better partner for yourself. good luck
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hear hear special mom
And you won't again if you choose wisely lol
I wouldn't continue in an intimate relationship with a guy that needed porn, not if he was a boyfriend or husband. If i married him, i would view it as being a mistake, that i had not thought it through. - That i married before having check ed off f all the boxes in the compatibility column.
Sometimes it's a broken road that leads to Mr. Right. - but iit's worth doing right. Your post brings to mind something i saw recently...
. 21 Suggestions for Success - H. Jackson Brown jR.
Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.
Work at something you enjoy and that's worthy of your time and talent.
Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
Be forgiving of yourself and others.
Be generous.
Have a grateful heart.
Persistence, persistence, persistence.
Discipline yourself to save money on even the most modest salary.
Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.
Commit yourself to constant improvement.
Commit yourself to quality.
Understand that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but on relationships with people you love and respect.
Be loyal.
Be honest.
Be a self-starter.
Be decisive even if it means you'll sometimes be wrong.
Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.
Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the ones you did.
Take good care of those you love.
Don't do anything that wouldn't make your Mom proud.
I wouldn't continue in an intimate relationship with a guy that needed porn, not if he was a boyfriend or husband. If i married him, i would view it as being a mistake, that i had not thought it through. - That i married before having check ed off f all the boxes in the compatibility column.
Sometimes it's a broken road that leads to Mr. Right. - but iit's worth doing right. Your post brings to mind something i saw recently...
. 21 Suggestions for Success - H. Jackson Brown jR.
Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.
Work at something you enjoy and that's worthy of your time and talent.
Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
Be forgiving of yourself and others.
Be generous.
Have a grateful heart.
Persistence, persistence, persistence.
Discipline yourself to save money on even the most modest salary.
Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.
Commit yourself to constant improvement.
Commit yourself to quality.
Understand that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but on relationships with people you love and respect.
Be loyal.
Be honest.
Be a self-starter.
Be decisive even if it means you'll sometimes be wrong.
Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.
Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the ones you did.
Take good care of those you love.
Don't do anything that wouldn't make your Mom proud.
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Although the amount of time that sex takes on a daily basis in our relationship (daily in your case), it takes up more space between us than simply the time of the act itself. Why should you share your bed with whatever other women he chooses to bring into your home and your sex life. He's acting like it's his sex life, and you're just living in his world, instead of the reality that sex between partners, is a 100% mutually rewarding event. And if you don't want to get involved with accepting this penchant, this habit , he's gotten used to just to please him, i say BRAVO. I sure wouldn't pretend it was important for me to have to have others in my bedroom performing an act of sex, when what i really wanted was to be made love to by my man. No way jose. (ho zee). You know?
So how do you feel? do you feel that you'd be happy to get more involved in this habit of his? are you able to even pretend to be happy doing that? If not, i'd set down some hard and fast rules about demanding that you be made love to , as oppose to you being complicit in a bad habit, (putting porn before marriage).
So how do you feel? do you feel that you'd be happy to get more involved in this habit of his? are you able to even pretend to be happy doing that? If not, i'd set down some hard and fast rules about demanding that you be made love to , as oppose to you being complicit in a bad habit, (putting porn before marriage).
Yes I have tried but he tells me "I don't wanna talk about that, you just wanna argue" :(
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How old are you both? How long have you been together and do things seem good other than that? does he make you feel good in other areas besides intimacy?
I am 20 he is 25. Been with him for 3 years. It's always been this way when it comes to sex and all that stuff but besides that he's great I like the way he treats me and I'm currently pregnant. But that's the thing that bothers me...
Totally understandable. I am not a professional, but glad to hear he does treat you well. I am sure you are feeling a lot of emotion and different because youre pregnant too, I did. If you are open to it maybe watch it with him or maybe be willing to new things in the bedroom as long as it keeps baby safe. (definitely hard while pregnant)
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