Been cheated on

[Pnurm83]

My husband of 4 yrs cheated on me 3 months ago said he made a mistake and would never do it again, I can't trust him and I love him with all my heart does anyone know how to get the trust back?

[Vance2335]

This person did not even reply once to her post so I highly doubt that they are around.

My suggestion is to start a thread dedicated to your situation and people will respond.

[GroovyDeeDee]

I'm going through the same thing now, with my husband of 18 years.  Wonder if you're still around on MedHelp, and if you're still with him?

[kprejean0817]

Trust will never be a 100% again! I have heared the saying once and cheater ALWAYS a cheater, but that is you hunnie! I mean if you really love and you think he is truly sorry them give him another chance!

[slow_healer]

Pnurm83, I'm not sure if you want the ugly truth or not, but that trust will never be 100% again... at least, not for a long time. I do think that people can survive and rebuild their relationships after a terrible blow like that, but it's a very tenuous process. If your husband is serious about not doing it again, then it will take years to re-build what he has damaged. He will need to show you consistently that he is serious about keeping your trust, and you will need to be constantly assurred that he will never do it again. It will take a lot of time, patience, and work. Good luck.

[dove3053]

I'm against cheaters. On the other hand I do believe in giving people second chances. Did he say why he cheated? Many marriages have overcome this kind of thing. I hope yours does.

No it's not any an easy thing for forgive or forget.

Dove

[Talz]

WOw, honey I cant imagine that feeling that you are going through right now....
How far did he go with his cheating.. who was it with? What did he say to you about this??
Did u find out from him or someone else...

I need a little bit more elaboration before I can help