breaking up with the father of my child

[jne1233]

I just dnt see us working, he's more of a handful then any child could ever be. I just feel bad because he followed me to college. I have family near by so I'm at home, hes not but then again I never told him to come here with me. I just want to do this on my own with out him. I hope I'm strong enough.

[smiley_one]

There are tons of single mothers out there raising their children. Women are strong independent people and can accomplish anything they set their minds to. You have your family there to help you and us here if you ever need to vent stress out or just need a listening buddy.

[baileybob]

my little boys now 10 week and i have been on my own for 5 week now best thing i ever did at first its hard his even tried to black mail me to get back with him but now his realised its not gona happen his getting his life back jus focus on your little one they will keep you going

[momabear86]

Before you burn bridges try talking to him first. Pregnancy can cause many emotions, my sister didn't want het husband any where near her for the first few months. Explain what your feeling and tell him what you want him to do then if it fails atleast you tried

[TxMamma]

I agree with Momabear. A few months ago I drew up a list of demands/contract that I forced my hubby to sign. It detailed how if these things didn't change then I would divorce him. Now that my hormones have settled down, I don't loathe him quite as much! Poor guy...   :) I had a friend that wanted a divorce when pregnant with all 3 kids. Wait til baby is born to make such a big decision. Unless the father is abusive.

[kai0912]

And i also agree with last two posts.... Try to wait it out and see.... I am on #2 and right now i dont get along with bd.....although sometimes after the birth he can be kind of helpful eventhough we arent together.... When baby comes it can be difficult to do everything on your own nit saying that u cant because ive done it for 3 years so far but sometines every now and then you may feel like you need a break and he may be willing to help

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Well, here is the thing in my opinion.  There is no absolute that you have to stay with the father to your child, however, you do have an obligation to make sure your child knows their father and they have access to one another.  A child will always want to know both parents and be close to both.  You are forever tied to this man---------- for eternity.  And you should WANT this for the sake for any child you bring into the world.   Hopefully he will stay in town and can coparent and bond with his child.  I do feel kids need two parents even if they don't live under the same roof.  You haven't said anything about him being abusive or having an addiction problem or anything major that would make him unfit to parent his child.  So, stay very friendly with him if you end the relationship and do your best to make sure he is close to the child you both made.  good luck