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Step daughter and father relationship
My second husband of 10 years will take his adult 29 year old daughter out for dinner, however, when he does they do the same things we do together. Last night, for example he took her to our favorite fine dining restaurant, sat at the bar and shared food and bottle of wine, exactly the way we like to spend time together, when he told me of his evening it sounded like my favorite thing to do with him. When I am not in town he will take her out and spend evenings out exactly like we do. My husband and I always think of this as our special place together as a sortof date night out. When I am not in town he will call his daughter and take her out in my place doing exactly the same things that we enjoy doing together. This Christmas he bought her very expensive earrings from my favorite jewelery store where his also got me a christmas present and has for many years. He thinks i am jealous, I think there is something very strange about the situation and he is taking the special times we have together and making them special with his adult daughter. I don't know how to handle this, i am confused, what should I do?
Because he takes her to what we always consider our special place that is very romantic. It was always what the two of us do together and now he takes her at least once a week, this is not special evening out, rather it feels like he is dating her.
I keep trying to see our side of it, but I don't. I guess my husband and I just like our "special places" because they have great ambiance, good food, wonderful memories.
It also sounds like he trusts that jewelry store and will take his business there when he wants to buy jewelry.
I agree with the others - you sound off-track here to me.
It also sounds like he trusts that jewelry store and will take his business there when he wants to buy jewelry.
I agree with the others - you sound off-track here to me.
COMMUNITY LEADER
I just don't get it. It's a resturant. good food, nice atmosphere, he likes it. He takes his daughter. Why is this a big deal? Are you afraid they are having an affair? (joke)
Sadly, I must agree that you do sound jealous of her. I'm a married woman. I can't imagine that I wouldn't want to go to a resturant with my sons because my husband and I really enjoy it.
Sadly, I must agree that you do sound jealous of her. I'm a married woman. I can't imagine that I wouldn't want to go to a resturant with my sons because my husband and I really enjoy it.
Right "special places" was for the two of us, now he could take her to many other places we go, the weird factor is this was the one place we have our friends and relationships, and when we go in together, our friends joke that I am the other woman....
COMMUNITY LEADER
I'm afraid you are going to cause an issue in your marriage if you don't let this go. I honestly don't see what you are upset about. I hope that my sons and I will enjoy nice dinners together when they are adults and that no one looks at it as a problem. peace
So often you and your husband go there with friends a lot, and when you're not there he goes with his daughter and I guess bumps into the same friends there?
It wouldn't occur to me, as one of your friends after seeing this to joke that you are "the other woman".
I'm just not getting this at all, I'm sorry. You go there, and your friends do too but somehow you and your friends think it's weird that he takes his daughter there.
It wouldn't occur to me, as one of your friends after seeing this to joke that you are "the other woman".
I'm just not getting this at all, I'm sorry. You go there, and your friends do too but somehow you and your friends think it's weird that he takes his daughter there.
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This is NO "woman friend"........this is HIS daughter.
I am sensing this as a bit controlling or is it that you enjoy drama?
It is apparent he isn't seeing this as you are. You have two choices: live with this (husband) or don't live with this (no husband).
Do you have any other issues with your marriage?
"He thinks i am jealous...." I am not sure this is 100% jealousy, but you sure need to get over this. If you don't, you are jeopardizing your marriage.