Unsure Mom to be with Dad that wants to abort

[27yrmomtobe]

Hi There, Just recently found out I am 6 weeks pregnant with my boyfriend of 5 months. I have wanted a baby for quite a while now and was both excited and terrified when I found out I was expecting. My boyfriend has been well aware since day one that I was not on any birth control and we both made the decision to not use protection. Now that I am pregnant he tells me he does not want me to have this child as we are "not ready" being that we both have a bit of debt. His $25000 mine $15000. We both have steady jobs, both live on our own (not together at this point in time) and both have good reliable vehicles. He is really pushing me towards having an abortion (which I have done before and it was very hard on me emotionally). I am just wondering what others opinions are of my situation? I want to keep the baby but he does not.

[mommyofaria]

Wishing you the best of luck with whatever you chose :)

[27yrmomtobe]

I had an abortion 4yrs ago and still regret it to this day. Thank you all for your comments.

[proudmommy120612]

Well as you stated in your post you have already had an abortion before and it was hard on you so just imagine going through that all over again besides her may just be scared at the time but farther down your pregnancy or when the baby arrives he may have a change of heart either way you sound more than capable of doing it on your own so in my opinion I would keep it

[mommyofaria]

^^agree....my cousin just turned 22 and she had an abortion at 3 months last year...she still regrets it til this day

[juliejperkins]

Listen I'm not some anti abortion fanatic but I will tell you this. Talk to an adult who has had an abortion (I have not but know a few who have) either way weather you keep the child or abort the baby. Abortion can take a HUGE emotional toll on you. Find someone older and experienced to talk to who is outside the situation.

[Salorja]

I agree with the two posts. You've only been with him 5 months though. Do you really think you can count on him-like do you really know him well? The point is its your decision. If he doesn't want to be in the baby's life then you can not make him. If you decide to have the baby he can sign away his parental rights and you "3" can go your separate ways. Do what's best for you. Any option you chose may be hard but doesn't mean it's not bearable.