WHY CAN I FIND THE RIGHT ON?

[Reesie222]

Ok here I am again. I am 19 years old and I seem to have everything I could as for. Im in college,work,drive,model and I have great family and friends. However, I'm missing a significant other. I can honestly say I've never been in a serious long term relationship. I had a boyfriend when I was 15 years old and we were together for six months. That was my longest relationship and I dont count that one because I was so young. I think it was infactuation and not real love. I've had a few boyfriends since then but they never lasted longer than two months. Well here I am 19 and I will be 20 in March. I dont understand why I cant find the right one. I know Im still young but I am so tired of dating different guys. I just want one dude that will love me and care for me. I've really given up hope that its someone out here for me because I've talked to so many guys. Everytime I meet a guy that Im into they only want sex and no commitment. Then I meet guys that I think are really interested in me. I think maybe he's the one and as soon as I really get into them they start acting like a jerk then its over. Then I have the guys that seem to be into me but I dont feel a connection with their just lame and boring. I mean its not like Im asking for a pot of goal. I just want a male companion. Someone that I can talk to anytime,go out with,tell secrets,laugh with and all the above. Im a great girl so why do I attract all the bad guys. I just dont understand why noone will commit to me. Will someone help me Im depressesd over this issue.....

[sammie_s]

You know I feel about the same way.  I always find jerks and for some reason I always get rid of the good guys.  I have learned with the guy I am with right now that things aren't working out.  Sometimes we have to date all the jerks to realize that their are good ones out there.  I dated this guy back in middle school and broke up with him because I had really big issues in my life going on that I couldn't talk to him about.  Well, we tried dating again in high school and once again I was an idiot and ran away from him.  I thought he deserved better then me.  Well, I ran into him two years ago and he came and spent the night with me.  We made out, first time we had ever kissed, and then I stopped talking to him.  Why?  I have no idea.  He is a very different person and I think that is what made me scared to get too involved with him but he is a great guy that I have always liked.  What I am saying is maybe those guys that you push away cause you think they are boring or different might be the right one for you.  You have to give them a shot, especially if they treat you right.  I regret not keeping in touch with my friend.

[broke123]

my life always seemed to apply to this rule :

"When you look, you never find. When you dont look, you ALWAYS find."

every time i would try and stay single, and just focus on myself, i would always end falling for someone, and get into a relationship.
and when i was looking, there would be noone for miles around.

so just concentrate on yourself, and be happy. bealive me, love will fall on u from the sky when u least expect it ;)

[Reesie222]

Thanks for the advice.....

[murphy58]

When you attract, you are combining good and bad ones. It is you who decide whether somebody is to your taste or not. You must decide what are your likes and dislikes. You shall mention them at some occasion initially. Same way you shall also findout what are their likes and dislikes. If both are comfortable in main points, both must be flexible in unimportant ones. We shall express them and hear from them. With these points bearing in mind, I hope you will get a desirable boy friend.

[slow_healer]

Every attractive girls attracts bad guys. Bad guys stick around ONLY if you make it clear you aren't the kind of girl who will settle for a jerk. It doesn't matter how much of a jerk he is - if you giggle at his jokes to be polite, yes he'll keep coming around.

Attracting nice people is about feeling attractive and confident yourself. Falling in love with someone whom you deserve is just as much about loving yourself. If you aren't meeting that special somebody in your life right now, be patient, and keep focussing on yourself. Don't wait to start living until you meet this one person - learn to live now. Usually it's in that process that a person worthy of you comes along, because they are attracted to your sense of confidence and high self-worth. Good luck!

[slow_healer]

Every attractive girls attracts bad guys. Bad guys stick around ONLY if you make it clear you aren't the kind of girl who will settle for a jerk. It doesn't matter how much of a jerk he is - if you giggle at his jokes to be polite, yes he'll keep coming around.

Attracting nice people is about feeling attractive and confident yourself. Falling in love with someone whom you deserve is just as much about loving yourself. If you aren't meeting that special somebody in your life right now, be patient, and keep focussing on yourself. Don't wait to start living until you meet this one person - learn to live now. Usually it's in that process that a person worthy of you comes along, because they are attracted to your sense of confidence and high self-worth. Good luck!