What interests older men about younger girls?

Question

What interests older men about younger girls? I'm not talking about a 40 year old and a 12 year old... I mean, like, a 30 year old and an 18 year old. She's too old to still be too innocent, and isn't that what mean are usually in to? i'm asking because my cousin is in this sort of relationship and i just don't understand it. she's a great girl, but what could he see in her? isn't she too young?

sweetpea03 · Answer

I don't understand why older men like younger girls. I have a friend who is ten years older than me and the other day he asked me out. I told him no. Sadly I find him to be more immature than I am at times. If there's too much of an age gap, then you're at different stages in your life. You really need to stick with someone at least somewhat close in age.

mj_mommy_manda · Answer

Welll I can tell you why MY boyfriend dated a younger girl! We were together 3 1/2 years.. I was 7 months pregnant with his baby.. I had 2 jobs.. he had a job.. We were living together.. THHEEENN out of nowhere some 14 and 15 year old girls showed up at his house for a party! He's 20 btw.. Im 19.. I was sleeping cuz i worked at both jobs the next day.. He was awake.. drinking because it was what he did best and he didn't work often.  

fast forward.. We got in a fight cuz the little 15 year old girls were there.. we didnt talk for a long time blah blah blah.. I moved out.. we hated eachother.. and he started dating the 15 year old.. she was irresponsible... so was he.. she was obnoxious.. so was he.. she was immature.. so was he.. she wasn't ready to committ to anything.. neither was he.. so THERE YOU GO.. If an older man likes a younger girl.. (sorry if this offends anyone!) 9 times out of 10 its because they relate to them.. and 9 times out of 10 its because of their MATURITY level.  So theres your answer.

Maybe you should asked to be switched to a different teacher if this crush seems to be taking over your life.

jo929 · Answer

older men have been interested in younger womwn since the beginning of time and always will be teko has it right it boosts their ego, makes them feel like they have the fountain of youth at their feet   luck   jo

teko · Answer

It is normal for a young girl or guy to have a crush on a teacher. It is not normal to act on it.  He is the teacher and you are the student. I know you do not want to hear it, but it is time to grow up. This is one of those things that they say "this too shall pass".  If ever you do get him in trouble, these remarks can be used in his defense. Did you know that? Whatever you put on the internet can be used to come back and bite you in the arse! so to speak.

iam1butterfly · Answer

Maybe because the older guys know that the 18 year old girls are stupid!

treazzure007 · Answer

older men like younger girls b/c it makes them feel young themselves and they want a woman w/ a youthful appearance and someone they can mold/influence/teach

same goes for women who like younger guys

AHP84 · Answer

Nobody is being self-righteous in their advice to you. And the answers you got were productive and helpful. They're just not what you wanted to read.
I read one of your other comments in another post that you just want answers from people that will tell you that you're not wrong for feeling the way you do, and that you can't just "get over it." Not a single person told you what you felt was wrong, and not a single person told you to "get over it." In fact, I was impressed at how many people truly understood how you felt, and offered you productive ways to divert your focus on him until you are in legal bounds to pursue this.
How is any of that not productive? What do you want us to tell you? Do you want us to tell you all the moves you can make to get your teacher interested in you? It really seems like that's what you want. I mean, if we're wrong and you are simply not getting the answers or advice you want from us, then please, take the time to clarify exactly what you want from us, because from where I stand, all I can see is that you want to know if this teacher likes you in return, and if so, how you can pursue him *while you're still his student.*
Again, please clarify if we're all misinterpreting what you want to know.

myblessings · Answer

I think you need to listen and focus. Involving ..hmm...sorry STALKING a teacher is for one ILLEGAL. Not only are you risking your pretty life, but his and his family. That is, if he is married. So my advice would be to leave the thought out of your head in trying to lure someone to like you that is off limits, and focus on your future before you find yourself without one in handcuffs behind bars.

 Was that a "productive" answer for you sweety?:)

mami1323 · Answer

What are you talking about not productive?  From what I've read everyone was pretty clear about WHY you shouldn't be getting involved with him.  You can risk his job, he can go to jail, maybe he's not into you in that way.  How much more detailed advice do you need?  I think you want us all to say, sure it's a great idea and he must be in love with you to.  Maybe that's what you want to hear but that is not the answer you are going to get.  The advice you are getting are from mature, older women with life experience.  We are telling it to you from a responsible viewpoint.  This isn't the man for you, you need to focus on school, move on to college and try and resume a teacher-student relationship with this man.  If you really want productive, don't stay after class to talk to him, do your school work and stay away from him.  How's that?

kcalla · Answer

no, my mother isn't worried. and i wouldn't have to post the same question over and over if i'd get productive answers. as much fun as it must be to answer with a simple "get over it," it's pretty self-righteous and not helpful.

so please. if your tired of my questions don't answer them. it's that simple.

have a nice day

heatherlynn22 · Answer

if i were her teacher i'd be a little worried....

mami1323 · Answer

kcalla, you're multiple rants about your teacher and him liking you or how to get him to like you are a little strange.  Your "crush" seems to becoming more like an obsession.  I suggest you start focusing more on your studies and less on this teacher.  If I was your mother I would be a little worried.

pcarsey · Answer

Could be a lot of reasons. I personally think that age doesn't really matter as much as maturity level in both parties (except of course if they are just minors, at which the older person should just know the law and stick by it) Once the younger one turns 18, no matter who likes it or dislikes it, they have the right to be together. 

If infact you are referring to a teacher, well that is a breach of contract maybe??  with the school if it is a student/teacher relationship. Which, then the age or maturity level neither one would matter, if in fact the career of one is in the thing that is hanging in the balance. Unless of course the "teacher" doesn't care about tossing his career out the window.

Shara21 · Answer

awww.... teko, lol if it makes you feel any better, my memory doesnt even last *5* years, lol.... hence the calender ;o)

kcalla · Answer

i don't get THAT either... i'd feel like such a cradle-robber... a skeez, you know?

SeriousSam · Answer

Energy and the lack of bitterness or useage of him.  Personally I always liked older women but..  I can see why someone would like to feel special w/out seeming to be an all purpose handyman etc...

On that note why do older women like younger men... Often MUCH younger?

teko · Answer

shara, as old as I am you better make it 5 instead of 10. lol My memory is bad now, god help me by then! lol  I wish you the best of luck, as I said there are always exceptions. Just be happy! Hugs

Shara21 · Answer

I'm not taking it personally at all =)

I was just stating my opinion, on your opinion!

lol 10 years from now... DONE! marked on my calendar =) lol but what are we going to be chatting about then? the relationship?

teko · Answer

hmm shara, do not take what I said personally, as I was speaking more as a generalization and no one specific. As usual there are exceptions to everything. I also stated it was my opinion and am not speaking for society as a rule. However, come back and talk to me in 10 years, then I may believe it. lol

Shara21 · Answer

hmmm

I'm 21, bf is 32. He's been head over heals in love with me since I was 19. *cough* Teko, I can assure you that being with me, compared to the girls that shamelessly flirt and throw themselves on him, doesnt make him feel much like a stud =P lol i may make him feel young again, but that has alot more to do with my personality then my age. I make ME feel young again and I'm pretty sure that when i'm 50 and hes 60 we're gonna be skipping around like we're in our teens. We are both mature people, we have a house filled with responsibilities that we take care of, he owns his own business, i'm in school, and we're planning on opening a store in 4 years time. YET when we have our down time, we horse around, we wrestle, we laugh hysterically at things that i'm sure arent that funny... we pull pranks on our friends and each other, set off fireworks just because..... 

Men don't always embark in relationships with younger women for selfish reasons. Sometimes it's just because the personalities (even if there is an age difference) match, and complement each other. 

So to get back on topic I agree with teko that those are SOMETIMES the reasons. Also, emotional baggage is hard to deal with. I think that one explains itself right there =P

Lucey12 · Answer

DROP THE TEACHER THING.

teko · Answer

They get a boost to the ego, it makes them feel young again or that they are some kind of stud for being able to get one. In my opinion, or they are immature and can relate to that age better than someone closer to their own age.