I'll share first---- my sister who is older than me (and wiser, and smarter, and more fabulous, and perfect . . . marsha marsha marsha--- you know the drill, a perfect older sibling . . .) was in highschool and I was in Jr. Highschool. She had taken some psychology course and learned about 'negative wizards'. She called me a negative wizard! I guess I was raining down on her parade about something holding her down, back, etc.
My whole life that has stuck with me. LOL I think about it---- I don't want to be responsible for dulling anyone's flame. I don't want to be the doggie downer that makes someone think they can't do something they want to do. Or that they aren't good enough. Or on a set path that will never change.
So, when someone says something to me such as friend---- I'm upbeat. I don't point out the negatives. Even if I'm doubtful, I will not responsible for making them doubt their ability to make something happen in their life.
No negative wizard for me. ha ha. I think of when my sister said that to me frequently. Not really sure why it stuck with me for this long . . .