we have split after 4 years

[bigback]

hello I am a male asking your ladies for help I have bean with my fiancée for 4 years and we have never had an argument in all that time she had the implant in 3months ago and then things slowly changed she stopped sleeping over we couldn't have sex she has been  bleeding all the time since it was fitted and 2 weeks ago she was telling how much she loved me and we was fine as with I was worried with her not stopping. 4 to 5 months ago we was looking in buying an house then get married and then kids in years to come so we pretty much had it all sorted life was grate we was never happier then last week she was booked in to have it removed on the Monday but on the Sunday  she told me she feel the way she ment to  and finshed with me after having it removed she came up to see me because I need to know why and she did not know why she felt like this she wont talk to me any more and she is out on the drink all the time im giving her the space she needs but to know how long to it take for her to get back to her old self its me birthday next week and I don't  want spend it alone with out her

[Londres70]

After reading your other posts, I would recommend you don't meddle in her affairs, i.e. contacting her physician related to YOUR concerns about possible medical issues going on with her.  Do not do this.  

If she doesn't want to talk then leave her be.  Meddling would only make things worse.  Don't push her.  I would consider the meddling intrusive.

[Londres70]

"im giving her the space she needs but to know how long to it take for her to get back to her old self its me birthday next week and I don't  want spend it alone with out her."...........Well, she may or may not return to her "old self."  Sounds like she has changed her mind in regards to what she wants or she is just confused about things and needs her space to sort things out.  Unfortunately, you can't control how long she needs her space.  

Did you all have any major problems in the relationship?

[specialmom]

Oh, I'm very sorry.  does she live in a different town than you??  

I think the only thing you can do is keep the line of communication open--  as in if she wants to contact you and talk or get together, that you allow that.  but you can't initiate it or push right now.  She may need some thinking time.

Do you think she has started seeing someone else?  I think that would be something I was suspicious of.  Because 'something' happened.  Either she has been harboring this for a while and finally acted on it or 'something' has happened recently.  I wish you could know this for sure but sadly, we often don't get all the answers when someone breaks up with us.

I would keep VERY busy right now.  Schedule lots of things with friends and family.  Exercise, throw yourself into work, keep a journal and then see what happens over the next month or so.  

peace