Been in relationship for 8 years - started as friends, then lovers, now no intamcy - I don't want it.
I feel like his mother now. We are in our mid 50's. I am bipolar, he has schizophrenia. He is so bright, we share interests in music, photography, and art - me - a painter and him graphic artist. He is a totally computer person - 6 computers - and i do rely on him to keep me up to date and fixes all my techno stuff. I am grateful - i'd be out of touch . He does have a care=giver now that I set up 5 years ago. We have never lived together and I can not do cooking cleaning, etc for him. I have a car - we enjoy going out on day trips. However, I have more money - and that is my problem too, I end up paying for these since he is on limited income - i am too - but have monthly income too. He is getting sicker with his illness - more delusions, etc. He now has COPD, false teeth and hearing aid.- which he doesn't like to wear. I feel more and more disconnected and wonder if i am staying in it because I feel sorry that he would be all alone. His family has no connection with him. He would probably go into a board and care - which i don't want for him. He is too bright and needs all his guitars, computers, studio..
I need to keep on painting - but find myself exhuasted and dained by his weird conversations lately. I would like to travel - go to italy and holland - once. and saved for it. He is to sick now to go - a girlfriend was going to go but sick now. I miss having an adult conversation with a man and being looked at as a woman. We do not fight - we just got a puppy together - the puppy is at my place. now what to do. I feel unhappy - and he is hanging tight onto me.