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Sister-Monster in laws!
I'm quite annoyed with this catty back and forth between my new sisters in laws. Ever since I've dated her brother it took them 2.5 years to actually be nice towards me. They are very snide and rude towards me and I really don't like being around them. It's like they don't like the fact that their brother is happy. One even had the nerve to give me over sized clothing (her old fat clothing after she lost weight) gave it to me. Lol... I'm 5 ft 110 lbs shrimp. I think that was awfully rude. I actually confronted her about it. She was 300 lbs and jealous and finally found a diet that works for her. Well good. Doesn't mean you have to give me your cast off clothing! They're both incredibly self absorbed. I'm actually sick of going over to visit them. I rather see my family since they love my significant other and embrace him into the family. Like they actually want him there and make the effort to get to know him and make him feel welcomed. I don't feel like that with his sisters. It's all very petty and I'm sick of it. Any advice from anyone who has or is going through the same thing? I'm done trying to make an effort with these mean girls lol
This could be these siblings are being possessive about their brother meaning they want to dictate who can and who will be in his life or even who is good enough to be in his life. They feel they're entitled to do this when in reality they aren't. Plus, they don't want you taking time away from them and their brother.
OR
It is a case of jealousy and insecurity.
Sounds like a mix of both.
Either way you cut it you are better off limiting time around them..
OR
It is a case of jealousy and insecurity.
Sounds like a mix of both.
Either way you cut it you are better off limiting time around them..
You're Totally right! Yes it's very rude and insulting. She mskes these jabs and insults towards me when she's near me. I just ignore her. I don't have the patience to be treated like crap.
They are always bitchy towards me. I don't get it I think it's their bad attitude. I honestly don't like any of the siblings they are rude. I love the extended family they are more sweet and make an effort to get to know me and invite us places. So I'll hang out with them.
They are always bitchy towards me. I don't get it I think it's their bad attitude. I honestly don't like any of the siblings they are rude. I love the extended family they are more sweet and make an effort to get to know me and invite us places. So I'll hang out with them.
Yes they are very insecure and nasty. I have made a lot of attempts but they are very self absorbed and greedy. They only care about money. I don't think they have a soul! They just care about what materialistic things someone has. They don't care about the person inside nor do they make an effort to get to know me.
My partner has confronted them but they seem very phony. I just want to be left a lone at this point. They have said very back handed comments and icing me out at family functions. I don't want to be around them.
They were nasty to me from day one. Saying stuff behind my back and not joining us for family time. They wouldn't even play cards with us it was very rude. I am sick of the bs I don't want to be around them. I rather be around my family
The bottom line is, they're unhappy and don't let it spread to you.
Are there others in his family you enjoy being around - so you can focus your attention at family gatherings on people you enjoy seeing?
Are there others in his family you enjoy being around - so you can focus your attention at family gatherings on people you enjoy seeing?
yeah, staying away from them is a very good idea.
Its a shame that they feel they need to treat you with disrespect, and who knows if they will ever change their behavior towards you. It could be due to a number of things, insecurity, jealousy, lack of people skills, or whatever - just because you are with their brother, doesn't mean you have to put up with their nonsense. Do what you feel is right for you and your man.
Its a shame that they feel they need to treat you with disrespect, and who knows if they will ever change their behavior towards you. It could be due to a number of things, insecurity, jealousy, lack of people skills, or whatever - just because you are with their brother, doesn't mean you have to put up with their nonsense. Do what you feel is right for you and your man.
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Hi there. I married into a large family. Mostly of brothers so all of the sister in laws were in the same boat as me except for the true sisters. There is definitely a small divide between sisters and sister in laws. But I am a peace loving person and don't contribute if I can help it. I smile and ignore the little irritation moments.
I do think it was an overreaction to find it rude that someone gave you clothes. I had a friend who said "Oh, I outgrew some clothes and they'll probably fit you. Here. . ." and handed me these clothes too big for me too. I smiled and said thank you. Really, why choose to believe someone was being rude when they were giving you things? Don't operate like that. choose to be more positive in how you see things. For your own sake.
What does your partner say about how they treat you? Would he be willing to set a boundary of polite behavior and calling them on it when they are rude in his opinion (which is maybe less sensitive than yours? :>)) That might help.
Hopefully it will get better. It usually does as everyone gets used to each other. good luck hon
I do think it was an overreaction to find it rude that someone gave you clothes. I had a friend who said "Oh, I outgrew some clothes and they'll probably fit you. Here. . ." and handed me these clothes too big for me too. I smiled and said thank you. Really, why choose to believe someone was being rude when they were giving you things? Don't operate like that. choose to be more positive in how you see things. For your own sake.
What does your partner say about how they treat you? Would he be willing to set a boundary of polite behavior and calling them on it when they are rude in his opinion (which is maybe less sensitive than yours? :>)) That might help.
Hopefully it will get better. It usually does as everyone gets used to each other. good luck hon
Hi, this is all to very common. My wife and my sisters kinda act the same to eachother. I tell my wife to just stay away from them as can cause terrible stress in our relationship. Keep it at a holiday or bithday communication mode only until things change.
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Are they bitter about a situation that happened between you and them? Are were they just nasty from day 1?
I would be a bit miffed if someone gave me hand-me-downs that:
A. I didn't ask for.
B. Were sizes that were obviously too big for me. If some former 300 lbs ox gave me her old clothes I would be super livid being that I am only 102 lbs. I mean...........really? Sounds ridiculous.
I don't think you were being "overly sensitive" about that. That was pretty much an in-your-face insult. If she was 300 lbs it is a given she did/does/will have issues.
Stay away from these people; they sound very toxic and they are energy vampires. Trust me. Focus on his family members who do treat you right and with respect.