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help with sisters
I love my sisters but it seems that its always odd man out. Last October at my niece's wedding I made two bad mistakes. I told my older sis that I had concerns about our youngest niece; that she might be pregnant or ill. Then later during family pictures I flipped my x husband off. He had been invited and also got to be in fam pics. He also stayed at the same hotel. Told our adult children he would not come if they didnt ride with him . It ruined my time with them at my side of the fams wedding. My older sis then told everyone what I said about my niece being maybe pregnant or ill. I think she built up or added to what I said..I had even told her not to say anything so feelings didnt get hurt. I got crusified. I have not been alowed at any fam things I missed christmas, birthdays, everything. I have apoligized and the niece and bride has accepted. My older sis thinks I need to apoligize to all the fam. how do I handle this, I am alone in my life. I miss my fam, guess they dont miss me.
Sweetie I am in the same boat! I have 4 sister (had 5 one passed away) My older sister is such a B****! I have decided that I need to just stay away from that one! She is not very nice to be around! People like her will suck the life out of you! I can't remember the last time I talked to her. The youngest one is a tattle-tale!!! The other 2 sister live out of state! Thats why I get along with them! Am sorry to say that sometime you have to let go of them,even if its family. I had to, to have a piece of mind and not get into big worthless fights with them! MIGHT BE TO DRASTIC FOR YOU! You didn't mean any harm and you apologized to the right person.I personally think big sis owe you an apology. For abuseing your trust! Shame on her! Some people love the DRAMA!!!!!
I agree this is a sad story, but this isn't about what happened at the wedding, it's been going on for a very very long time.
I agree that your sister seems to have a grudge, interesting that everyone else is willing to follow her.
I agree that your sister seems to have a grudge, interesting that everyone else is willing to follow her.
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Oh, this is a sad story. I'm very sorry that you feel alone. Things happen. I think it was unkind of your sister to throw you under the bridge like that and tell all about a conversation the two of you had. It makes me wonder if it is a tumultuous relationship to begin with or if there is more to the story. Maybe it was inappropriate what you said-------- but one comment or conversation does not make someone evil by any stretch of the imagination. That is a little overly sensitive. Big deal-------- you said she might be pregnant or ill. Is she 12? Why is that such a huge insuslt to result in your being banned from family functions? That is an over the top response on the part of your family and why I wonder if more was going on.
And your ex . . . sounds like someone was insensitive to YOU by inviting him. It was your side of your family and he is the EX. They should have consulted you about how you would feel if her were invited and taken your apprehension and unhappiness about it seriously.
But all of that is water under the bridge. What to do now? Well---------- older sister seems to have a grudge. Call the bride and her mom and ask them to lunch. Pay for it. Have a good time and tell them how much you have missed them. If they live far away . . . offer to drive in and go to lunch and stay at a hotel overnight. Just make an effort to be with them. Be honest with your feelings to family and tell them that you miss being with them, you're sorry if your behavior was inappropriate at the wedding and you want to be part of the family again. Host a party at your place and invite everyone. See who shows. But no------------ I don't think you have to publically apologize to the whole family and your sister may owe you a little apology as well.
She seems to be very angry with you, so have a good talk with yourself and try to figure out why. good luck! I hate to hear of anyone feeling left out and lonely.
Oh, and you have kids, right? You aren't left out from them are you?
And your ex . . . sounds like someone was insensitive to YOU by inviting him. It was your side of your family and he is the EX. They should have consulted you about how you would feel if her were invited and taken your apprehension and unhappiness about it seriously.
But all of that is water under the bridge. What to do now? Well---------- older sister seems to have a grudge. Call the bride and her mom and ask them to lunch. Pay for it. Have a good time and tell them how much you have missed them. If they live far away . . . offer to drive in and go to lunch and stay at a hotel overnight. Just make an effort to be with them. Be honest with your feelings to family and tell them that you miss being with them, you're sorry if your behavior was inappropriate at the wedding and you want to be part of the family again. Host a party at your place and invite everyone. See who shows. But no------------ I don't think you have to publically apologize to the whole family and your sister may owe you a little apology as well.
She seems to be very angry with you, so have a good talk with yourself and try to figure out why. good luck! I hate to hear of anyone feeling left out and lonely.
Oh, and you have kids, right? You aren't left out from them are you?
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