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Omgosh!!!
I hate my child's dad!! Like I really hate him I have never hated a person so much!!! And I'm to the point where I don't want to be with his a$$!! Idk if it just me or my hormones either way I want him gone! Not dead tho.. Lets clear that part up! ... Just away from me !
In order for one to make controlled and conscientious choices, according to one's inner sense of what is right, one would first have to have had an upbringing that would support that kind of conscientious choice.
This is a catch 22. Otherwise a person that was nurtured inadequately to support their own child bearing reality must first cut themselves off from their family of origin, which was diseased, find and pay for the assistance of those in the mental health care field that could help them to facilitate a person to make plan a positive parenthood experience, in choosing their mate, a child friendly career, child friendly friends, and their own ability to provide a sage and acceptably loving home for any child.
or they can be drawn in and controlled by their mutual lust and hope for the best, damned the torpedoes.
It is no wonder that life is hard, staring out, for so many. i thank God that Medhelp has provided an arena for young or old persons to learn from others before harming themselves, or their children further and on top of what was done to them in their family of origins ignorance. Yeah Medhelp.
And YEAH all those young ladies who take the time to open up here and be honest about how they are feeling about what is happening to them and by them. The forum is here, and without these brave souls reaching out and replying, we would be back in the old days when it was easy to hide from introspection and input from the community or village. Blessings to all the parents and children that must learn from others to raise themselves up, in order to be good parents..
This is a catch 22. Otherwise a person that was nurtured inadequately to support their own child bearing reality must first cut themselves off from their family of origin, which was diseased, find and pay for the assistance of those in the mental health care field that could help them to facilitate a person to make plan a positive parenthood experience, in choosing their mate, a child friendly career, child friendly friends, and their own ability to provide a sage and acceptably loving home for any child.
or they can be drawn in and controlled by their mutual lust and hope for the best, damned the torpedoes.
It is no wonder that life is hard, staring out, for so many. i thank God that Medhelp has provided an arena for young or old persons to learn from others before harming themselves, or their children further and on top of what was done to them in their family of origins ignorance. Yeah Medhelp.
And YEAH all those young ladies who take the time to open up here and be honest about how they are feeling about what is happening to them and by them. The forum is here, and without these brave souls reaching out and replying, we would be back in the old days when it was easy to hide from introspection and input from the community or village. Blessings to all the parents and children that must learn from others to raise themselves up, in order to be good parents..
So true specialmom so true wishing you the best as well and hope that the woman that posted this got what she needed because I haven't seen a response from her but I also hope anyone in her shoes that read this post or will read this post it can help them also..
COMMUNITY LEADER
Oh, I agree. Older men and women also continue negative patterns. I have a wish to help out when someone is younger so that they can have MORE years of happiness rather than dealing with bad mates. I guess I say young females because I see a lot of young ladies who are pregnant and then attached to these jerks and wish they didn't have to be.
But it is absolutely true that anyone of any age can overlook the characteristics that should make us not be with someone because they are caught up in the moment. Very true.
I think people are trying to help and have only good intentions with the posts. I really do. I wish happiness for EVERYONE and happy relationships!!
But it is absolutely true that anyone of any age can overlook the characteristics that should make us not be with someone because they are caught up in the moment. Very true.
I think people are trying to help and have only good intentions with the posts. I really do. I wish happiness for EVERYONE and happy relationships!!
Now see the post rather responses you just made was very constructive.. I can understand which I understood the first but the last post seem much more relatable due to the fact it don't seem like you trying to tear someone down... People make mistakes in life if they dont learn and keep choosing the same type it's not a mistake... And as far as just young females or males choosing these wrong type of mates that is not always true... Some older women make these same mistakes also.. I just don't think it should be labeled as just the younger generation... But with as this being said I just hope we as woman should choose wisely on who we choose to have children with because it dont just affect you as the woman it also affects the child..
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Oh, and I get too that sometimes women just vent. It is hard on the internet to know if that is the case or if they for real for real hate their partner. Those are two different things. it gets confusing on the internet to know where someone is exactly coming from. We do the best we can here. :>)
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No, no one is criticizing. But, when someone has a laundry list of bad qualities their partner has--- and they write to us about them for our opinion, it would be suggested to find a better guy to be with or someone you are more compatible with.
I know I've been married many years as have many others here so that is part of the thing I try to talk to younger women about. Making good choices. most often, someone shows you who they are in the beginning and THAT is the best time to leave. it's so much harder when you're pregnant with their child.
I think it is appropriate to talk to people about raising their standards in a mate (male or female) for next time when they hate their current partner and it probably isn't going to last long term. Why make the same mistake again.
so, I say it again. I hope everyone judges the person they date harshly and leaves anyone that has tendencies that we aren't going to want long term. To not get swept away by romance because that doesn't last. Think in practical terms and pick a well matched partner that might be a jerk once in a while but not like on a regular basis where we don't think we can be with them any more. That's really how to get to a place of being in a functioning, happy long term relationship. good luck to all
I know I've been married many years as have many others here so that is part of the thing I try to talk to younger women about. Making good choices. most often, someone shows you who they are in the beginning and THAT is the best time to leave. it's so much harder when you're pregnant with their child.
I think it is appropriate to talk to people about raising their standards in a mate (male or female) for next time when they hate their current partner and it probably isn't going to last long term. Why make the same mistake again.
so, I say it again. I hope everyone judges the person they date harshly and leaves anyone that has tendencies that we aren't going to want long term. To not get swept away by romance because that doesn't last. Think in practical terms and pick a well matched partner that might be a jerk once in a while but not like on a regular basis where we don't think we can be with them any more. That's really how to get to a place of being in a functioning, happy long term relationship. good luck to all
I don't think anyone is trying to judge or criticize...........it is very worrisome to see post after post with this kind of stuff going on. Moreover, it is concerning a baby is being brought into the world in less than desirable circumstances. I am wondering what the heck is going on here. It is like there is a full blown epidemic of these bad choices in regards to choosing a man to have children with.
Perhaps they are "good at hiding their bs," perhaps some women aren't good at detecting the bs or perhaps some women ignore the bs. Don't know which category this situation falls into.
You don't have to be with him, but you are going to have to deal with him because of this child unfortunately. I would recommend you consider keeping the relationship CIVIL between you and him for the baby's sake. You are tied to the guy for a LONG time now.
I feel really terrible for these unborn children as they are going to suffer related to all the drama between the mother and father. The so-called adults get all wrapped up in their drama and forget how this can and will affect the children. Terrible.
Perhaps they are "good at hiding their bs," perhaps some women aren't good at detecting the bs or perhaps some women ignore the bs. Don't know which category this situation falls into.
You don't have to be with him, but you are going to have to deal with him because of this child unfortunately. I would recommend you consider keeping the relationship CIVIL between you and him for the baby's sake. You are tied to the guy for a LONG time now.
I feel really terrible for these unborn children as they are going to suffer related to all the drama between the mother and father. The so-called adults get all wrapped up in their drama and forget how this can and will affect the children. Terrible.
Some of you ladies kill me with your you didn't know this or that you should have chosen wisely bs... I'm not in their situation but I feel like this some guys are just good at hiding their bs.. some guys act all good in the beginning and show their true colors later.. just because you never was a wolf in sheep's clothing or had one of them don't judge unless you in their situation... Sometimes it's hard to see the bad in people that you don't wanna see or believe hopefully they will change.. unfortunately some women think bringing kids in the relationship may change the man but in all truths the man will only change if he wanna change.. I think these women are hurt enough.. constructive criticism will help them more then putting them down over someone they cannot control.. people make choices and sometimes those choices be mistakes...
Ditto the above ladies. I really wish young girls would be more choosy. I saw a perfect quote on FB this morning that made me think of these girls...I think I'll post it as my status.
Aim a LOT higher ladies! Self respect is so important, and you won't have any the longer you put up with such nonsense, abuse and disrespect!
Aim a LOT higher ladies! Self respect is so important, and you won't have any the longer you put up with such nonsense, abuse and disrespect!
Good question, Chima7: "why even have sex with someone like that"
I will take that a step further since there is a certain percentage of failure rate with ALL birth control methods - so: why even have sex with someone/anyone You don't already have a mature, long term, committed relationship with?? - 'cuz sex creates Babies sometimes - planned or not.
I will take that a step further since there is a certain percentage of failure rate with ALL birth control methods - so: why even have sex with someone/anyone You don't already have a mature, long term, committed relationship with?? - 'cuz sex creates Babies sometimes - planned or not.
I don't know, maybe I'm crazy but why have a baby with a guy who is such a huge jerk? Why even have sex with someone like that or get involved with them in the first place? Birth control, when used properly and consistently, actually works. So, all of these problems could have been avoided.
COMMUNITY LEADER
I'm just wondering if none of this stuff comes up before the pregnancies? It sure would be easier to leave a jerk without carrying their child.
Wowww...this is a shame. He is 10 yrs older & still acting in his childish ways. This isn't a good spot for you to be in right now. Relationship should be 50/50. My partner gets on my nerves right now due to hormones, but not dealing with finding extra phones is a blessing.
I thought I was alone. All my fiance does is play video games with the guys. Barely answers my calls. I feel he is cheating or leading a double life. And why is it that they feel u don't need them now. We need more emotional support than anything. Gosh, I wish men can get pregnant. Then they will truly know how we feel.
I feel your pain! I hate him. I thought it was hormonal too but its him!! I want out when the baby comes.
Your house, your cars....what else is there for him to complain?, he is on a free ride and is screwing around....not a good sign...
Loose him u dont need this stress, stress is bad for a pregnancy it can cause misscaridges or early labor. I have this problem to tho I left him finally he buys thing for my child but he is not loyal to me... I hate him so much to! I cant stand him. I dont even want him near my child.
Yea I'm just tired! He can barely keep a job!! I have found 2 private phones!.. I feel like he's sleeping with someone else. Because we haven't had sex since I found out I was preggo and I will be 7 months in 6 days! (Sex hurt right now) we sleep in two separate rooms and he hasn't done not 1 thing for our (my) child!! Stuff just don't seem right! Yet, this is my house.. He drives both of my cars at free will yet he complains about everything.. But now that he feels like I need him when I go on leave he think he can do whatever!! It's like we have no connection at all!! And I'm tired of worring about all these kids games! Yet he's 38 and I'm 28.. Uuugghhhh he just make me hate him!! Oh and each time I found out he had a phone he broke them so I couldn't see it!!
*sigh* if I could leave my partner I would! I know how you feel hub!
Had a fight earlier with my **** head partner and he threw a bag of hot chips at me. All because I'm sick of my step kids being disrespectful slobs.
Some of it might be hormones but if your really unhappy and you have the chance to leave you should get out.
My partner told me if I leave he will fight me for the baby and I have no where to go so I'm stuck here.
On the other hand though I'm sure pregnant women get moody and hormonal either way its not a real good feeling :-(
Had a fight earlier with my **** head partner and he threw a bag of hot chips at me. All because I'm sick of my step kids being disrespectful slobs.
Some of it might be hormones but if your really unhappy and you have the chance to leave you should get out.
My partner told me if I leave he will fight me for the baby and I have no where to go so I'm stuck here.
On the other hand though I'm sure pregnant women get moody and hormonal either way its not a real good feeling :-(
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