How did you really "know"?

[twinkly84]

How did you know the person you're married to (or partnered up with say, for years now) was really "the one"?

I mean, think about it....this world is HUGE. You just don't know who will walk into your life on any type of basis. You're spouse or partner could be at the grocery store while you're at home & say then, he/she meets someone else! What is the real sense of defining a true-love/soulmate then? Why even bother going down the aisle in front of God, your family, your friends, etc. confessing your utter & total true devotion to this one person for the rest of both your lives?

I am asking what signs/signals/anything really indicated to you that your spouse/partner was the one that you wanted to wake up to & be with for the rest of your LIFE....

Thanks...

[Judy246]

Also, I was happy and content simply cuddling together and watching TV instead of at a bar or night club. That's why I say, simple pleasures are the best. We walk hand in had a simple phone call to say goodnite or text every night.

[jojo24]

Let me add that if we ever have to be apart for a whole night/s, we speak to each other every couple of hours, and we actually miss each other.  I can honestly say that I've never missed anyone like that before him and I've never had so much fun with one single person.  I can't stand to be without him.  I'll admit that sometimes it's nice to have that big king sized bed all to myself when he has to go out of town or something, but I don't ever sleep good until he's back home next to me.  We even have the same heartbeat.

[jojo24]

I knew from the first moment I saw him, but I REALLY knew when we became friends and he was the one person I could trust more than anyone.  He was so kind and gentle and treated me with so much respect.  He always says the right things at the right time, he is honest, and he loves me for me despite all of the flaws I have.  Like I said before, we love each other with the same intensity.  We've helped each other grow so much.  We're constantly learning from each other, and if we ever argue (I'll call them disagreements) we work it out in the same day and we never go to bed mad at each other.  I can't go a whole day without talking to him and it's the same with me.  We get along so well that people question whether or not it's even real, as we do not know too many people that have what we have.  I think you know when it's "the one" when you'd rather hang out with him than your best friends, because he is your best friend.  You know it's "the one" when you can look past any flaws they might have externally and see the beauty in their soul.  You know it's "the one" when every decision either of you makes revolves around the other person.  You know when you're out with your friends or experiencing something and you realize it would have been more fun with your mate.  I don't know how many times my husband has been out with his friends and I ask him if he had fun and he says he would have rather been at home with me.  Or how many times I've been out with my friends and thought about how much better it would be if hubby was with me.  We have so much fun together, and even when we don't go anywhere or do anything, I'd rather be with him doing nothing at all than out partying with my friends.  That's how I know he's the one.

[Judy246]

I new the very moment I layed on on him. He was soooo handsome and came up to me...I became like a giggly teenager. Everything he did was special to me, holding my hand, his kisses would leave me numb and couldn't stop thinking about them. We has similar values. We even share the same religion (Christian Catholic) and that was a plus. Not keeping your eyes off him. It's hard to describe, because when you do, people will definately say, Oh brother!, but I realized that love was simply me and him and the rest didn't matter.

p.s. we complimented each other in our ways.....

[megochick101]

Well what did it for me was that i chose to spend my life with him, and it wasn't because "i love him so much that i couldn't live without him" I don't think that is real love, that is dependence, and neediness to me. Real love(to me) is when you know that even though you love your partner, that you could make it fine by yourself and that you do not need that person in your life to make you happy, but are instead choosing to be with that person because you want to, and not because you feel in some way that you have to in order to have a happy fulfilling life.  Your partner needs to be someone who you can talk to about anything, and someone who you can share yourself with and I believe each person in a relationship needs to have their own independence and rely on themselves, with the support of their partner, instead of relying on only their partner to get them through life. For me, I wanted someone who in 5, 10, 20 years whatever I could see myself still caring for and still loving and still seeing myself with and i can see my husband being in my life down the road. I think also one of the big things you and your partner need to have is the ability to change and adapt as your relationship progresses, because let's face it, people change and you have to be ready and willing to work through the changes and adjust as they come.

And i don't feel like there i only one person out there for everyone, i believe there are many perfectly good matches for everyone but you have to be willing to see these matches and be willing to work on them. You have to find someone who you can truly relate to and who has your same moral values and someone who can be your best friend as well as being your lover. being friends with your partner is really important and i think some people don't realize this fact. And one of the most important things to finding someone who can really be a great match for you is first, knowing yourself and what you want form a partner and second you have to love yourself and not rely on anyone else to provide your happiness with yourself or your own self worth.

Ok i went off topic a little i think, but you get the gist(jist sp??) of it.