I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years In that 10 years, we have lived separately twice. We have been together since I was 19, so along the line we both questioned other relationships and personal identity. We have since been back together for 2 years now and now can honestly consider such a huge step of marriage and children. Before we got back together, I was honest and told him I had dated someone else during our time apart. I asked him if he had and he said no. I began to question him when I started to realize that our sex life was going down the toilet. Every time we "tried" to have sex, he either wasn't fully erect or he was soon to be completely limp during sex. We finally got to the point we will go more than 4 mos without having sex. This is a HUGE bother to me. We have always had a healthy sex life. I have addressed the issue many times and I have gotten responses such as he got distracted, he's tired, or hes too hot. So, I began digging. I went through his phone and computer. I wasn't too surprised to see all the porn on his history. He will literally surf the web on porn sites for hours. It is nothing fetish or graphic...mostly nude photos and couples videos. I brought this to his attention and let him know that it was not making me feel good about myself, especially in the bedroom. He assured me it was no big deal and every guy looks at porn and its easier and more convenient. Since then, he changed the password on his computer (which I know) and now uses his phone for most of his porn watching. He will literally go to another room with his phone or computer when im asleep. If I go out for an errand, he spends the time watching porn! This is literally making me crazy. I finally gave up on going through any phone or computer history because it mentally wore me out! Has porn ruined his sex drive for the real thing? Is counseling necessary? I have spent 10 years with this man, and I refuse to marry someone who would rather watch porn than have sex with me. If any one has advise on how to remedy this situation, I'm all ears.