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marine is a deadbeat dad!
ok so long story short, the father of my baby is in the marines. he said he would split expenses with me and be a father to his daughter etc. well the baby is 2 months old an he hasnt seen her since she was 2 days old. i filed child support on aug. 10 but they spelled his las name wrong on the papers they filed with the court even though ALL the papers i had filled out has it spelled correctly. anyways when i called on sept.3rd they said they corrected the mistake and refiled the papers. how long do you think the papers will take to get to him. and since he is in the military i know we have to prove paternity no prob he acknowledges its his baby, she looks just like him, but with that what is my daughter entitled to, and about how much do you think he has to pay?? he is an e-5 sargeant in the miliitary and has been in for 8 years. and will they make him pay back child support since i filed on the 10th
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Wow. Really interesting that BIGLAMERIL has come on here. Interesting.
How very odd that you two both posted on med help.
How very odd that you two both posted on med help.
my wife went to the state and filed similar papers against her ex (retired Air Force) and it took a couple months but she is getting the back child support she is due. He took her to court prior to this to get child support dropped (and also get some cash value out of the house they bought together in which he never lived) and the judge made him look like Mortimer Snurd.
It probably won't take long for the papers to be served to him, but depending on the backlog of family court in your area, it could be over a year before your case goes before a judge to determine child support, or it could be only a few short months (where I live, it's a 12-28 month wait).
His payment amount will be calculated based on a specific calculator your state uses to determine child support amounts. Generally, this includes his salary, your salary, other children he may have from previous relationships and/or if he pays alimony for a previous relationship, the type of health insurance you both could provide, the cost of daycare for the child if the child goes to daycare, and both of your W-2s are submitted (if you both are working). The courts are not going to simply determine he works in this career, his salary is $X/year, so he should pay $X per week or per month. A lot of factors go into determining the amount he'll be enforced to pay. Try a Google search on child support calculators to get a rough idea of what you may *potentially* get.
It's highly unlikely they'll make him pay back support since you filed to open the case. If he had LEGALLY missed payments according to enforcements for him to pay that are already legally in place, only then would you probably get back support. Once your case goes before a judge, that's where it begins. From there, if he misses a payment or more, you will be entitled to back payments. Usually those accrue interest as well.
His payment amount will be calculated based on a specific calculator your state uses to determine child support amounts. Generally, this includes his salary, your salary, other children he may have from previous relationships and/or if he pays alimony for a previous relationship, the type of health insurance you both could provide, the cost of daycare for the child if the child goes to daycare, and both of your W-2s are submitted (if you both are working). The courts are not going to simply determine he works in this career, his salary is $X/year, so he should pay $X per week or per month. A lot of factors go into determining the amount he'll be enforced to pay. Try a Google search on child support calculators to get a rough idea of what you may *potentially* get.
It's highly unlikely they'll make him pay back support since you filed to open the case. If he had LEGALLY missed payments according to enforcements for him to pay that are already legally in place, only then would you probably get back support. Once your case goes before a judge, that's where it begins. From there, if he misses a payment or more, you will be entitled to back payments. Usually those accrue interest as well.
Do you live close to him? Is he in another country? Deployed?
If he's a Marine he could just not have the time/be able to. My husband is a Marine and he only saw our boys for 2 days/week for the first 3 months of their life. Why? He had to work mon-fri. and occasionally had duty on the weekends. Those weekends...he didn't come home at all. During our relationship I saw him ONE or TWO WEEKS / YEAR. Yes, that's it. Why? He's a Marine. In the Marines they are taught Marines first, family second. Yes...that is what they have drilled into their heads. Luckily my Marine put family first. Even if we didn't get to see him much until he was discharged. (Honorable discharge after being in for 5 years) Don't be so quick to jump to he's just a deadbeat. Unless he has came out and said "I don't want to see so and so" or lives close enough, has enough time off (which if he's active duty i HIGHLY doubt) to just visit when he wants...don't be so hard on him. Marines are Marines 24/7/365.
If he's a Marine he could just not have the time/be able to. My husband is a Marine and he only saw our boys for 2 days/week for the first 3 months of their life. Why? He had to work mon-fri. and occasionally had duty on the weekends. Those weekends...he didn't come home at all. During our relationship I saw him ONE or TWO WEEKS / YEAR. Yes, that's it. Why? He's a Marine. In the Marines they are taught Marines first, family second. Yes...that is what they have drilled into their heads. Luckily my Marine put family first. Even if we didn't get to see him much until he was discharged. (Honorable discharge after being in for 5 years) Don't be so quick to jump to he's just a deadbeat. Unless he has came out and said "I don't want to see so and so" or lives close enough, has enough time off (which if he's active duty i HIGHLY doubt) to just visit when he wants...don't be so hard on him. Marines are Marines 24/7/365.
Mrdomino, this is something that is probably beyond the expertise of this board. I think you'd probably get accurate answers if you asked these questions where you filed the paperwork for child support.
where i live the uk it depends on certain things.how much he earns,does he have any other children,a mortgage,and how much does he earn.
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