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my bf is nasty to me
My bf drinks loads and gets abusive towards me. I had a miscarriage in november and he accused me of killing the baby since this I can't bring myself to have sex with him and he said he's gonna force me to have sex. He keeps threatening to have me beat up we argue everyday I don't know what to do no more he's broke my spirit and made me someone I'm not
There is really nothing to discuss. You need to leave now before he hurts you further. Hold your head high, get out and never look back! Go to a shelter, family etc... Think about a restraining order also. If you go to a shelter, they will assist you in getting one or go and get one yourself. No one deserves to be treated like this. ((hugs))
It is obvious you should leave.
He will not change and I would NOT stick around hoping he will change.
You should be looking into social resources for therapy for YOURSELF and seeking a safe place AWAY from this man.
He will not change and I would NOT stick around hoping he will change.
You should be looking into social resources for therapy for YOURSELF and seeking a safe place AWAY from this man.
You need to keep your head held high. Do not let any man crush your spirit. You also need to tell your family how he is treating you. Do not be afraid to call the police if he hits or threatens you. If he forces you to have sex. THAT IS RAPE!!! You do not have to go through that... You need to leave him and DO NOT look back!! Good luck to you! I hope you leave him!!
Forcing a woman to have sex is rape. You are asking if you should be with a rapist? Go to a woman's shelter rather than stay one more moment. As special said, what are you waiting for, him to actually do it? How is that better than leaving before it happens?
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welshbabe-------------- here is my best and firm advice, leave. Immediately. Why would you stay with this guy? Your first line " he gets loaded and is abusive to me". That is not a quality I look for in a signficant other. We date to find out what we need to know about someone in order to decide if we should move the relationship to the next level.
This is clear. You shouldn't.
He is threatening to force you to have sex. He says he'll have someone beat you up. You are so resentful, hurt by him that you refuse to have sex with him.
What are you waiting for? For him to follow through on his threats????
I think you go wherever you need to or have to in order to get away and you do it right now. And then you consider a therapist to understand why you stayed as long as you did. He's not a healthy guy and that you chose him and stayed with him is concerning. These patterns often repeat.
I wish you luck but most of all safety. Get out now.
This is clear. You shouldn't.
He is threatening to force you to have sex. He says he'll have someone beat you up. You are so resentful, hurt by him that you refuse to have sex with him.
What are you waiting for? For him to follow through on his threats????
I think you go wherever you need to or have to in order to get away and you do it right now. And then you consider a therapist to understand why you stayed as long as you did. He's not a healthy guy and that you chose him and stayed with him is concerning. These patterns often repeat.
I wish you luck but most of all safety. Get out now.
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