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am i ready?
i am 17 and my boyfreind is 19. we both are completly different. i am ready to be a mom and have been doing good in school and trying to get everything ready when our baby boy comes on may 17. i rarley see my boyfreind now and i want him to be there for our kid but i have trst issues with him and i want him to step his game up.. to atleast bring me to a doctors app. or go with me to get clothes or something! His mom is excited and will always be there for me but his father and me do not get along. My parents want nothing to do with his family because they are "different". what kind of family is my baby going to have when no one gets along? is this the right choose for me or should i start thinking differently?
ready you stiil didnt see what life have to offer both of you..if you dont see your boyfriend that often now..all he should be doing is working...but maybe that might not even happen..maybe he will be hanging with his friends while your home big and pregnant and hungry...if you and the family dont get along i can see why, you have your own place? or a car?but most of all education..colledge..have fun be young and enjoy it..your still a baby yourself..
Honestly, you have the odds against you statistically for keeping your family together. It's not impossible, BUT your situation does not offer you a lot of positive opportunities.
I've been there, done that. My story didn't work out, despite how hard I tried. I'm not trying to kill your hopes, but I'm being honest and realistic.
To answer you question realistically, the kind of family your baby is likely to have when no one gets along is not a happy one. Having a baby isn't going to make everyone magically change their minds about each other--in fact, tension usually gets worse because now there's a connection between you all and no one will agree the other is "doing what's best" by the child because they can't get along in the first place. Everyone will be critical of each other if they're required to interact by you all staying together.
I'm not going to say break up with your child's father and write him and his family out of yours and your child's life, but what you should consider is establishing his paternity legally when the baby is born. Do this so he can't bail out on you. This will also set legal boudaries for both of you and your families to follow, so no one can override the other. Visitation can be established and you can modify it voluntarily beyond that if you wish, and he'll be required to pay child support.
Should you stay together and work things out amongst all of you, that is wonderful. But as likely as it is that that may not succeed, you need to have your ducks in a row to have things set up to best benefit your child and yourself as a single parent.
Best wishes to you, and I hope things work out.
I've been there, done that. My story didn't work out, despite how hard I tried. I'm not trying to kill your hopes, but I'm being honest and realistic.
To answer you question realistically, the kind of family your baby is likely to have when no one gets along is not a happy one. Having a baby isn't going to make everyone magically change their minds about each other--in fact, tension usually gets worse because now there's a connection between you all and no one will agree the other is "doing what's best" by the child because they can't get along in the first place. Everyone will be critical of each other if they're required to interact by you all staying together.
I'm not going to say break up with your child's father and write him and his family out of yours and your child's life, but what you should consider is establishing his paternity legally when the baby is born. Do this so he can't bail out on you. This will also set legal boudaries for both of you and your families to follow, so no one can override the other. Visitation can be established and you can modify it voluntarily beyond that if you wish, and he'll be required to pay child support.
Should you stay together and work things out amongst all of you, that is wonderful. But as likely as it is that that may not succeed, you need to have your ducks in a row to have things set up to best benefit your child and yourself as a single parent.
Best wishes to you, and I hope things work out.
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